Post # 1
Hello, healthy couple – 36 female and 40 male. How long is the average time to concieve? Thinking of trying end of this year! Just want to get an idea. I know there is no real average but anyone in similar age group who can give answers please.
Post # 2
Let me skew the average here a little… 32 when we started trying, 5 years and still trying. Completely healthy, never smoked, rarely drink, fit, semi active, never had any bloodwork out of normal range.
Post # 3
al09 : I’m listening to the podcast IVFML right now and according to the Dr that they interviewed, if you are having sex 2-3 times a week then a normal healthy couple should be pregnant within the first 4-6 months, maybe even as low as 3 months.
Doctors say at your ages that you should go see them if you haven’t gotten pregnant within 6 months.
My Darling Husband and I have been trying for a year now and have never been pregnant before (no chemicals, no miscarriages), we are now seeing a specialist. This was a huge shock to me as I fully expected to get knocked up on my first try because everyone in my family has gotten pregnant either first try or by accident. So you never know until you actually start trying.
Post # 4
I’m almost 35 and Darling Husband is 40. We started TTC in February. My dr said she didn’t see any reason why I wouldn’t conceive quickly but due to our ages, I should see her if we weren’t expecting after trying for 6 months.
We had a couple of cycles where one or the other of us was out of town during my fertile window, so we decided to wait one more cycle to see the doctor but I just made an appointment to see her in September.
I am glad I talked with the dr at the beginning of our TTC journey.
Post # 5
The numbers I see most often are that, with regular sex, 80% of couples will conceive within 6 months. With it being 30% of couple in 1 month, and then up in increments per month from that. Another 10% will take 6 months – 1 year. The remaining couples will take a further year naturally or fail to become pregnant without intervention.
Based on your age, I might say to err on the longer side of those stats ‘just because’, but it’s really down to your individual fertility.
I am 32 and conceived on 3rd cycle TTC. A friend of mine was 29 when she began and took 2.5 years, conceiving after 2nd round of IVF. You never know until you try!
Post # 6
There are no averages. It’s honestly a crapshoot and you just don’t know until you try.
We started trying when I was 34 and I will deliver my first baby next month at 37 after 3 IUI’s and 2 rounds of IVF. We have “unexplained” infertility.
One of my dear friends got married at 39 and had two kids at 40 and 42 without even trying.
Fertility doesn’t decline at 35 like you may have heard but it does start to decline at 37 on average. I would not wait to try and would call a specialist right at 6 months if you’re not pregnant yet. You have time but not a ton of it if you end up needing to go the IVF route. IVF success goes down a bit at 37 and then a lot at 40.
Post # 7
dgirl715 : Well, of course there are averages. Everyone will end up on the bell curve somewhere, you just don’t know where until you try.
Post # 8
al09 : I’m 30 & Darling Husband is 45 (no known health issues & no previous pregnancies)… We got a positive test less than a month after I got my IUD removed (1 week before my ovulation dates). I was worried it would take forever bc his sister & brother both tried years for a baby before they got pregnant.
Post # 9
Got pregnant right after stopping BCP, I’m 32 and hubby is 34 so you don’t know til you try where you’ll fall. Everyone’s different.
Post # 10
BeckyS0 : Congrats on your pregnancy! How did you know you when you were ovulating with an IUD in place? Did you have a Mirena or Paraguard? I had a Mirena for 4.5years and had it removed a month ago. I rarely had AF while it was in and I’m now trying to figure out my cycles.
Post # 11
I was 31 when we started trying, husband was 26. We got pregnant on the first cycle, but then I miscarried somewhere between 6-8 weeks. We waited one cycle before trying again. Got pregnant on the first try again, but this time it was a successful pregnancy. So, it depends on how you are counting I guess. It took about 4 months from when we started trying until we conceived my daughter.
Post # 12
My best friend got pregnant on her first shot and I needed IVF after 2 years of trying. Both healthy and early 30s. There is no way to know until you try!
Post # 13
littlebuzz : True, I just meant average is kind of irrelevant to an individual couple’ circumstances.
Post # 14
I’m 34 (husband is 37) and got pregnant in our first cycle of trying. My best friend (35) got pregnant in her second cycle of trying after she was told she’d probably have great difficulty conceiving naturally. My other friend (30) tried for 2 years with no detected fertility issues before conceiving. You just never know!
Post # 15
Not TTC yet but I’m already paranoid about it because of the BCP longevity. But my sister had ovarian cysts and she had some type of outpatient procedure done and they told her she might not be able to conceive. She got pregnant by an oops 1 time. So even with medical conditions you can get pregnant and without them some people don’t. I’m not even trying yet but super paranoid after being on BC. I cant even tell when I ovulate because my periods have been irregular. So I don’t know how thats going to go when we do start trying.