(Closed) Avoiding +1's who aren't invited

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Um, adults in relationships should get +1s — so it’s you who’s “blatantly skirting etiquette.”

As for your question, you can write out the name on the invitation as you always do, and not indicate a guest, as an invitation points out who is invited, not who is not welcome.  If your cousin RSVPs for 2 and you truly don’t want to accomodate his girlfriend, then you should call him and politely explain the situation.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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nellytfernando :  so not plus ones then. Plus ones are what you give truly single guests. People in long term committed relationships are just invited with their so by name. Completely different. 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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newwbeesf :  on my rsvps it said “number of guests attending” and I wish it had said “number of invited guests attending”

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

Is your cousin in a long term relationship and would you expect to bring your partner to their wedding? 

Usually it’s just the named person who gets invited. The friend or family member will usually ask if they are confused about their partner or child not being named. 

If he turns up with her they’ll just have to split a dinner 😂

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

No matter what you write on your invitation, people will try to invite +1s, the real trick is saying no when they squeeze an extra person on the RSVP card, or call and say “by the way I’m bringing someone”, or just show up with someone!! 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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seegee :  great idea

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