(Closed) Avoiding drunk drivers: A Conundrum!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Reception transportation: our expense/ guest's expense?

    OUR expense

    GUEST'S expense

    Bus shuttle to nearest public transportation

    Taxi

    Bus shuttle to drop off guests at their house

    Other, please explain

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee

    Shuttles to a hotel will work so that really drunk guest can buy a room or sober up in the hotel lobby for a bit

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m also for at least getting a shuttle to the hotel.  I think that you’ll be surprised at the amount of people who live in that 1 to 1.5 hours drive away will in fact be staying at the hotel.

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you’re having a lunch reception and not serving liquor than I would think your guests  would be totally fine figuring out that they need to be aware of how much they drink as they need to drive themselves home.  

    We are having a wedding where 85% of guests will be out of town so we’ll have a shuttle bus running between the reception venue and the two hotels with room blocks. I think this is a really differnt situation from yours though because it’s in the evening (and all of our families are pretty big drinkers) and so many people are coming a long way for the wedding so it’s like a weekend getaway/mini-vacation/party!  Plus since everyone’s not from here and our wedding is downtown I don’t want slightly tipsy and lost drivers!

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We offered shuttles to the hotels we blocked rooms at, and made it clear that would be available when the invitiations went out. So if people choose to book at other hotels, they were responsible for their own transportation. I think it worked really well, and only cost us about $500 I believe.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I understand your concern, and I am sure *thinking* about the ‘what if’s’ is scary! 

    However, every guest needs to be responsible themselves, and accountable for their behaviors.  For me, I always have schedule a ‘ride’ knowing that receptions + alcohol = me being drunk.  The one time it was not feasible, I made the adult decision to not consume alcohol at the reception.

    Certainly, as the party thrower, you can try to accommodate how and when you can.  A shuttle perhaps, or designating a few DD’s in the off chance someone does drink too much, and *tries* to drive home. 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Middle of the day? I would assume that many guests will not drink that much. Maybe one glass of wine or a beer or two. I wouldn’t worry too much about it, to be honest. 

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

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    @OUgal0004:  But in Canada, if you have an event, someone needs a liqour license.  Where it is at a family farm, I assume the responsibility is on the bride/groom.

    IF something was to happen, the person holding the license would be held accountable for the accident.  They would be charged and sued for serving too much liqour, and allowing the person to drive. They would be almost as much at fault as the drunk driver.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

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    @SapphireSun:  +1

    In BC, I believe you need to have serving it right in order to get your liqour license.  I completed my hospitality management diploma at VCC… we did alot of drinking and driving cases.  One of the top ones involved a man in Squamish/Whistler who left a bar, went to a friends, and then got in an accident and killed his passenger.  In the end, the bartender, waitress, and friends all recieved a certain percentage of the blame.

    It may sound ridiculous, but it is pretty serious. And something can happen anytime, even in the afternoon.  Just be prepared, get the shuttle, dont serve guests who have had too much, and be prepared to call the police if you do get a drunk guest who will not give up their keyes.  It will be better than your ass on the line, right?

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    @kjo:  i’m mostly familiar with the circumstances that require police approval, but I’m thinking at a private residence a special occasion liquor permit won’t be required.  Same as if you had a smaller amount of friends over to your place and served drinks.  But having a bartender/caterer on hand that is certified is still an excellent step towards proving that you did your due dilligence as a host. 

    I think if the shuttle is in your budget, by all means it’s a lovely thing to provide. 

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Planning transportation is just part of going out. If your guests don’t regularly drive drunk, there’s no reason to the think they will drive drunk at your wedding.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re providing a shuttle back to the hotel we’re reserving a block at, but the rest of the guests are on their own.  Since you’re having a mid day wedding, I would think guests wouldn’t drink TOO much and that you’d probably have enough sober people in the crowd to get everyone home safely.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We provided shuttle service to our hotel.  Almost all of our guests used it, even the ones who weren’t staying at the hotel (we had an after-party in our suite).  We wanted to make it convenient, but we also knew that some of our friends don’t make the best decisions when it comes to alcohol and driving.  We were able to put them all in cabs or send them home with DDs.  If we hadn’t done the shuttle service, we were prepared to pay for people’s cabs.  I agree that it’s not the B&G’s responsibility to pay for guest transportation and that drinking guests are adults who are responsible for themselves, but we just didn’t want to take any chances.  Couldn’t bear the thought of something bad happening to our loved ones on our wedding night.

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    This is not tough at all.  They’re adults.  They should know when to stop drinking so that they can drive themselves home.  This is not your responsibility.  The only thing you can do is stop serving alcohol 1-2 hours before the end of the event.

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @This Time Round:  Drink Driving isn’t an offence in the US?! I don’t know anyone who’d consider driving after more than one pint/small glass of wine. Usually at weddings one half of a couple would stick to soft drinks. I wouldn’t consider it the bride and groom’s responsibility to organise travel no matter how remote the location.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

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    @RainStorm:  Sorry I am so late getting back to you on this (but I was off getting married / on my Honeymoon etc).

    In the USA, of course Drunk Driving is an offense… BUT it is a Traffic Violation… not a Criminal Offense like it is in Canada (here the implications are… Jail Time – Permanent Record – can make it difficult to travel abroad etc).  So whole other ball of wax in regards to the implications of getting caught.

    Hope that helps,

     

     

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