(Closed) Avoiding Family (Long Virgin Topic Post)

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That’s terrible! I’m so sorry you have to worry about this!

If it were me, I’d elope and send out wedding announcements. Worrying about your dress being burned at your wedding is something that no one should ever have to think about. Is there any way you could start bringing up the idea of Destination Wedding to your Dad now? Since it’s so far in advance, it could give him some time to adjust. As for your Mom’s side, I wouldn’t worry about those people at all. They sound horrible.

Post # 4
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree, definitely save yourself the worry and elope, then send out wedding announcements.

One of my coworkers said he chose to elope because his family is just awful (both he and his wife had divorces on both sides, etc) and he said that none of them could stand to be in the same room together, so eloping was the right decision for them.

Post # 5
Member
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We went that way for similar reasons (and many other reasons too). Our families aren’t as terrible as you describe, but still, we wanted an intimate celebration and barely know these people, plus they don’t really get along.

I invited my family, knowing that they would decline the invite (some because they don’t have the money to travel, and others because of lack on interest – they would have made it if it was at home, only because they had to, but wouldn’t spend to come to a DW). My family would have been insulted not to be invited so they received one.

My husband didn’t invite people on his side at all. They don’t get along together, and he openly said he didn’t want to have to manage that, or choose which ones to invite. We explained that it would just be us and our parents and very close friends. Nobody made it a big deal.

Since we got back, we’ve had small celebrations with each parts of the family, and really everything went well. Plus, we got the wedding that we really wanted, and have NO regrets AT ALL. I’d rather have the stress of not inviting someone and dealing with it and love my wedding to each details, than inviting people and having the stress of them ruining it for us. Just something to think about…

Post # 6
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916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

Send out wedding announcements!!  We are only inviting people who support us and leaving out a couple people who are just plain RUDE.

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