Post # 15
Wow, your in-laws are something else! I like the PPs suggestions. I’m just shaking my head here. In my extended family we have numerous allergies, several who are lactose intollerant or have other dietary restrictions. We always make sure that there is something for everyone to eat! That’s never a question.
Post # 16
Just go and bring your own food. They’re not going to confiscate it lol. So far as not trusting yourself to stay away from the fried food, realize that it’s not worth umpteen trips to the bathroom!
Post # 17
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Fuck his parents!!! Bring your own food. If they can’t understand you have a medical condition…that’s their fault. And…your SO needs to grow a pair and defend you!!!
Post # 18
Just bring something just for yourself.
Post # 19
Yes, you bring your own food in case they don’t have anything you can eat. If they say anything just say “it’s a medical issue”. Who cares if they think it’s rude?
Post # 20
giley: What? How is this an issue? wow.
Would his parents really think it is less rude to not go at all becasue of the food than to bring your own?
Bring your own food and eat it and that way they don’t have to store it. This situations seeems like someone is really trying to pick a fight.
Post # 21
Hmm, in light of how unreasonable and rude his parents sound, I’d stay home from the cookout, too. And I’d tell my husband that the last thing I need to hear from him is that I’m ‘selfish’ for wanting to put my health before my in-laws fee-fees… but I suppose I’d also reassure him that of course I would attend future parties, just not this one since it is specifically a “cook-out”. Still, I think it’s troubling that your husband is pressuring you to compromise your health and face his parents’ rudeness and lack of empathy without any support.
Post # 22
People need to respect dietary restrictions. I personally wouldn’t go. Sorry. Health is first. And secondly I don’t care who it is— no one is allowed to just treat you with disrespect and get away with it. I wouldn’t go. Especially after being made very uncomfortable previously. Better things to do!!!!!
Post # 23
If you don’t ask, they can’t say no. Just do it. They will get used to it eventually.
Glad you are feeling better!
Post # 24
I hope your husband supports you more in future. This should have been a non issue because they should clearly either happily accomodate a family member and guest or accept your brining your own food. They sound really annoying, OP. And also that does not sound like an enjoyable spread anyway with so healthy options.
Post # 25
Sorry, don’t have advice for how to deal with your in-laws. (My way of dealing with it would be to sit sipping water and sighing loudly and making passive-agressive statements about how hungry I was and making my Darling Husband feel like Sh!t for not backing me up)
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Post # 25
HelloBlondie: wtf? What about her post made you think she was expecting them to bend over backwards? She would happily bring her own food! I can’t believe 6 people found that bs “helpful”.
Post # 26
Thank you everyone who replied.
I went to the cookout and brought my own food. I brought a small salad, and was defnitely prepared to get called out or something. Turns out my MIL’s mom was visiting and she is a woman of very few nice words. She asked why I brought my own food, I mentioned my ibs and such and she said “understandable, wish I would have known” and then scolded my Mother-In-Law for not accomodating my needs (MIL’s mom enjoys being a hostess). however my MIL’s mom did make some stuff that I could eat like potato salad and tofu. overall a good day.
Talked to my husband, and layed out all the issues that occurred. I told him I do not expect him to make changes for me (diet wise, even though he is for the most part because I cook, hahaha). He apologized for being unsupportive. My Mother-In-Law and I have had issues in the past and he usually thinks thats the reason I try to avoid them. Although the issues are behind us and I harbor no hard feelings.
Post # 27
giley: Congrats on a successful resolution! Best of luck with the healthy eating!
Post # 28
That is great! I’m so happy this came to a peaceful ending for you! Good luck with IBS and your new journey 🙂