(Closed) Avoiding nosy questions about your dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Nope, u are not alone! – a lot of people have pressed me for details on my dress, so I just say it’s a surprise!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you think these people are immature and jealous, don’t fan the flames by giving them tidbits of information to get them talking more! If someone asks, why not tell them the truth – “I got a gorgeous Vera Wang dress at a great price and supported a charity all at the same time!” Haters will hate, they will always find a way to tear things down. Rise above it and enjoy your dress and wedding, you’re probably better off that they aren’t coming if all they want to do is be negative.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would not bring up the topic of the dress if you hate how much they gossip.  You are thinking you are going to control the situation by only giving them information you want them to have-but if you do that, it will not work in your favor.  Gossipers gossip.  That is what they do.  I agree with how KitKatNYC suggested you respond if they ask.  If they have a snarky response, just let it roll like water off a duck’s back.  Remember, hating is a form a flattery; it is a result of compliment someone has but does not want to give.  Focus on your beautiful dress, your Fiance and your future together.  You don’t have to prove anything to them.  Good Luck!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cheeryo:

I definitely would NOT tell them the designer of the dress, then it just looks like you’re giving them something to talk about… no one has really asked who the designer of my dress is, and I wouldn’t go flashing it around either, especially if I was worried about those types of people.  Just say it’s a surprise and leave it at that.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I havent had that problem thankfully, but I hear ya and they dont need to know anything about your dress if that is the way they are going to act. As long as you feel good about your purchase and it makes you feel good that’s all that matters.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just wouldn’t say anything at all, to be honest.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

nope!! you are not alone!! I have gotten soooo many questions, rude & alike about my dress.. No one but my mom & FMIL has seen me in my dress!!! & nope its not on weddingbee either.. lol lets see… some of them have been…

  • How much did it cost? — really? who asks that?
  • Is it a China knock-off? — uhhh no! & if so, so what
  • Can I see you in it?  — uhh yeah at the wedding.. duh..
  • Are you wearing white? — no, its black… come on !!
  • It should be chiffon or with a lot of lace…..
  • Is it short? do u have a picture of it on your phone?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

oh.. sorry but to answer your post… I’d say “why yes.. it’s a Vera Wang!”  –Proudly. lol  thats all they need to know IF anything… lol

 

Post # 12
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781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

yes! people are so nosy! especially when they ask about the cost!  it’s MY business how much I spent on my dress! And if they start grilling you for detail, just say, “it’s a secret” with a coy smile.  Leave them to wonder on their own.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think if you don’t want to answer questions about it, you shouldn’t bring it up.  You can’t give them one detail, which you KNOW will make them want to know more, and then get upset when they try to ask you about it.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Lie 🙂 Oh yes, its a custom Vera, purchased at (enter salon that sells custom Vera near you). It doesn’t sound like they will be attending the fittings anyway. And since they wont be attending the wedding, gush afterwords. “Oh my crystal centerpiece? Custom made Swavroski Crystal!” Haha, or not. It’s a nosy question though. Girls will be girls, and if they are this jealous, you must be doing something right.

It doesn’t matter if it is custom. Who cares? You’re wearing VERA!

But if they care, Lie :).

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Personally, I wouldn’t tell them what designer you’re wearing.  It’s braggy and flashy, IMO.  You want them to be impressed by her name (or there’d be no point saying it), but not have any other interest beyond that.  It won’t happen.  They won’t think you look better because they’ve been given the name of the designer, and you’re setting yourself up to have people say that it doesn’t look any better than so-and-so’s inexpensive nylon mass market dress.  I’d let them be surprised and impressed by how awesome you look in it on your wedding day.

FWIW, I had a designer gown and NO ONE who was at the wedding except for my Darling Husband knows what brand it was, where I bought it, or how much I paid for it.  For every person that would be impressed by the brand, there would be someone would be bothered by the supposed excess.  None of that was the point.  The ONLY point was to look and feel good on my wedding day.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh yeah. I dont like people asking me where I got my dress.. Especially because I got it at the one place I didn’t think I would buy a dress but waddayaknow I found the one there. I usually change the topic or I name some random neighborhood in the city that has a bunch of bridal shops nearby and tell them I forgot the name because they all sound the same. I also feel people try to judge your wedding based on where you bought your dress.

My mom is like that too with people asking if she got her dress already, and she just tells people she got her dress custom made.

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