(Closed) avoiding the clinking glasses

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hmmm . . . to get around this you need to inflict the burden on the party requesting the kiss.  you could make cute signs saying that if the guests want the bride and groom to kiss, they need to get up and tell a joke, or do something else to embarrass themselves.  I don’t like this tradition either.  I found this article as well:


Making the Bride and Groom Kiss

Post # 4
171 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t remember if it was here or another site but a bride made little signs for each table with a poem about not clinking glasses. Instead couples had to come to the dancefloor and kiss to get the bride and groom to kiss. I might copy this idea. I don’t mind the kissing but the clinking is annoying.



Post # 5
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Yeah, if you have signs telling people they actually have to make an effort to do something in order to get you to kiss, they’ll be less likely to do it!

Post # 6
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

At a friends wedding, we got super annoyed by the guests clinking glasses, so I kissed another bridesmaids when the glasses were clinked, then 2 groomsmen threatened to kiss – people stopped!

Post # 7
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

You know, I’ve been to a couple of weddings recently and there wasn’t any glass clinking at all! I didn’t notice anything posted, either. I kind of assumed it was just a dying tradition.

Post # 8
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

At my best friend’s wedding, the DJ announced that instead of clinking glasses, if people wanted to see the bride and groom kiss, those people had to get their table or a group of at least 6 people together and sing a verse of a song that has the word “love” in it. It was fun. The kids table (aided and abetted by adults at a table nearby) stood and sang “If you’re in love and you know it… clap your hands.” The bride’s father’s table did “You Give Love a Bad Name.” There were about ten tables, but probably only four or five songs. It ended up veing very cute and funny, but didn’t go on forever.

Post # 9
1109 posts
Bumble bee

I think I once heard a story about how the clinkers were made to kiss one another…

Post # 10
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t really like this tradition either.  I was at a wedding where people were clinking their glasses like every 5 minutes.  Very annoying!

Post # 11
15 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Fiance doesn’t like the idea of kissing to clinking glasses either.


I went to a wedding this past summer where the bride included a list of ways to make the bride and groom kiss. This list was in a booklet that contained the menu, thank yous, and other information (almost like a program for the reception).

Activities from the list included:

-get everyone from your table to participate in a dance (electric slide, macarena, etc)

-share a story/memory about the bride and groom

-sing a song

-tell a joke

There were many more, all equally creative and fun, but I can’t remember them at this time. I’ll have to look for the list! SO many people were doing the activities, which made it fun for the bride and groom, as well as the guests!

I loved it so much that I am going to do the same thing for my wedding.

Post # 12
24 posts

At my best friend’s wedding, she gave the DJ a list of married couples who would be in attendance. The first time the glasses were clinked, the bride and groom kissed. The second time, the DJ called out the names of the first couple on the list and so on. It was cute, kept the attention off the bride and groom, and it died down really quickly. Just a thought!

Post # 13
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We had a poem for our wedding – but you have to make sure the DJ still announces it. We put signs on every table, but not every one pays attention!

Post # 14
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Would you be willing to share your poem? Our DJ/Band could announce this as well, but a poem is a cute idea for those that arrive late or are out during the announcement!

Post # 15
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never actually seen this tradition in practice but one version that I heard about is the couple asked people to make a donation to a charity and then ring the bell by the box that held the charity money in order to get the couple to kiss. I thought that was a cute idea. 

Post # 16
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m hoping that our cocktail reception will keep that from happening. There won’t be many utensils available to make the “clinging” noise on the glass. And the DJ will be getting the party started shortly after the grand entrance.

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