Post # 1
Hello internet. I’m running into a bit of an issue- it’s not a big one; but I’m not sure how to go about it.
My future mother in law really wants me to have a dollar dance. I don’t like them at all (it feels like a literal cash grab and I’m not fond of the idea of making people pay to dance with me). I did tell her, but she told me to just do it- it’s apparently a cultural thing, she loved it at hers, etc. Also, she and my future husband’s stepfather are paying for most of the wedding, so I feel bad about butting heads with her on this.
So I guess I want to ask: is this the hill I want to die on? Should I suck it up (it is one dance) and deal or should I try to convince her again that it’s just not for me?
Post # 2
I despise the dollar dance so it would not be negotiable for me.
Post # 3
Ugh this would definitely be the hill id choose to die on. I wouldn’t be (at all) comfortable with a dollar dance and would have that discussion assertively with Mother-In-Law if necessary. Could your Fiance address it with her?
Post # 4
Compromise maybe? No dollar dance in exchange for another tradition that she wants (and you want too)
Post # 5
Yeah no, it’s a good hill to die on if you’re going to pick one. it is still YOUR day and you are supposed to be happy comfortable. Explain you will not be either of these things if you have to do them.
Post # 6
I would die willingly on this hill a thousand deaths.I understand she is paying but it is still your wedding and you should not have to do something you would feel so self conscious about.
Post # 7
I would tell her how excited you are to do the dollar dance and that you’ve found a fantastic company to deliver the pole and the perfect white lace pasties with the most darling little tassles that match your dress.
Post # 8
I would put my foot down. It’s a known thing around my family members weddings and even though I’ll participate in it at their weddings, there was NO WAY I was having one at mine! You do you!
Post # 9
I am so sorry be. stand your ground. no means no.
Post # 10
that one cracked me up bee hihihi!
Post # 11
This is definitely the hill you want to die on.
Post # 12
I would 100% die on this one!
If you hired the DJ, make sure to tel them NO dollar dance, no matter what.
Post # 13
ugh, I can’t stand the dollar dance. My fiancee wanted me to do it, but I talked him out of it. Flippin can’t stand them.
I agree about asking her to settle on another tradition…just not this one.
Post # 14
Thanks guys. I think I knew the answer all along- non negotiable things should stay that way. It’s just tough because she’s been so accomadating and lenient about everything else!
Post # 15
Girl, just say no..please!!! You have a swarm of bees behind/supporting you.