(Closed) My awful inlaws never seem to get better :(

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sorry that you’ve had so much in-law problems.  Sometimes removing the toxic people out of your life is the best thing that you can do for you (and when I say you, I mean you and your hubby).

HUGS

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You cannot control others- you can only control yourself.

If you want to visit for birthdays, then by all means do.  Don’t let them run you away.  However, if they get nasty and start shit, you and your Darling Husband need to leave together. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I hear you.  I can’t stand being around the IL’s but we’ve cut our visits drastically and I do what little I do for Darling Husband.  I would much rather be poking my eyes out with my fingernails. 

From what I have experienced, it is always someone else and it will always be someone elses fault.  We know deep down that it isn’t us…even if our husbands married Jessica Biel they would have problems.  So, remember that it isn’t US, it is THEM.  They are the one with the problem and they will more than likely put the blame on you no matter what.  Is it right?  No.  It just is.  I used to take it personal until the accusations and blame for things got absurd and then it became funny.  My fault we had a big snow storm last year?  Yeah right! 

I think him removing them from his life is taking a stand for your relationship, KWIM?  And I would support him in that; he feels that is best.  I had to do the same thing to my mom and while no one agreed, I had to take a stand for us.

Post # 8
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Don’t blame yourself!  Some people just are not nice and shouldn’t be in our lives 🙂

HUGS

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not your fault, and you can’t do anything about it. They can choose to blame you for their own issues, but you dont have to accept the blame. Stay strong, and do what’s right for you and DH!

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