(Closed) Awful News….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Im so sorry, this is awful and so horrible that its so close to your wedding. My grandmothers funeral was the day before my cousin wedding and i know how difficult this can be on the family. I hope everything works out well for you and remember to enjoy your day even though you are, of course, sad about her death. *lots of hugs our way*

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ohhh, honey. I’m so sorry. It’s always terrible to lose a grandma, especially so close to your wedding day. I know she would have loved to be there, and will be, in spirit.

I’ve thought about ways to honor my grandmas at my wedding. Although they died many years ago, I was close to them and miss them especially as I get married because I can imagine how happy they would have been and how much they would have enjoyed the day.

Some things that I thought of are, as you say, a nice table with pictures, candles, flowers. (I don’t think it would be too sad for guests — I imagine they’d be happy to see it.) You could include photos of her as a girl or her wedding photo as well as photos from later in life, if available.

Also, wear something of hers: a piece of jewelry or carry her handkerchief. Something to keep her near you. I’m thinking of baking cookies using our grandmas’ favorite recipes for our Rehearsal Dinner or out-of town bags. I’d include the recipe plus a note explaining that it’s in memory of her.

Are your programs already printed? If not, you might want to include a dedication (or even add one on a printed label), or just mention her in the ceremony or speeches at the reception.

I’m very sorry for your loss, but if there’s one thing I know about grandmas, they stay with you very strongly even when they’re gone. Have a beautiful wedding, and enjoy both the happy and bittersweet moments.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry!  I would definitely something “in remembrance” at the wedding – a candle or bouquet of flowers up front perhaps.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard this is on you, especially so close to your wedding. I think your idea about putting a picture of her at the entrance is wonderful. I have also heard of people leaving a chair empty and putting a flower on it to designate what would have been her spot, although with her passing being so recent, that may be too difficult for you to handle. Do what feels right for you. Once again, I am so sorry.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know it’s a tough time with very mixed emotions… try to experience whatever joy you can surrounding your wedding, but of course don’t feel obligated to feel one way or the other; it’s a very happy/sad time right now.

As far as honoring her, do whatever you think is best, or maybe ask your mom for ideas if she’s up to it. I think a picture right at the entrance might be too much for some considering the loss is so recent (but you know best for your family). I think maybe you could have a chair for her with flowers on it or, if that’s too much, maybe display a portrait of her near the cake or near where the ceremony is held. Did she have a favorite flower you could incorporate into your bouquet?

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Im so sorry to hear that!! Maybe you can have the officiant add something short into your ceremony about her. Try your best to enjoy your wedding day and know she will be with you and she is no longer suffering.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really have no words. I am very sorry for your loss.

One thing to remember, and please don’t think this is awful of me to say – but just try and enjoy your wedding day as much as possible – as I’m sure your grandmother would want nothing but happiness on your wedding day.

I love the idea of wearing something of hers. Both of my grandmothers (and grandfathers) passed years ago – but I was close to them and am doing the pictures of their weddings on our guestbook table. I also have a strand of my maternal grandmother’s pearls I will wrap around my bouquet.

I wish you all the love on your wedding day and sending you (((hugs))).

Post # 10
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581 posts
Busy bee

(((Hugs))) I’m sorry for your loss.  You have received some excellent suggestions.  Just go ahead with what gives you the most comfort in remembering a special lady.

Post # 11
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry for the loss- the loss of a grandparent is one of the saddest things in life whether its expected or not. As for remembering her- I second the wearing a piece of her jewelry. Also maybe have a locket with her picture on it on your bouquet.. My mom’s father died almost 5 years ago and when my mom remarried 2 years ago she put her bouquet on his grave the following day- That might be a thought if you’re not planning on saving it..

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

my grandma and i are close so i attached her wedding photo to my bouquet, since i wanted my something old to be something from her wedding dy, but she didnt have ant mementos. So sorry to hear about your grandma!!!

 

photo from shannon morse photography
http://shannonmorse.blogspot.com/

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i’m so sorry for your loss!!! I agree with many of the other suggestions- I think a bouquet of flowers on her chair would be a really nice gesture. But I also agree- try to enjoy your day as much as possible. I am sure that would be what she would have wanted. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry about your loss.  I would suggest a bouquet charm or maybe a piece of her jewelry to make you have her there for your wedding?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry. 

I think the idea of including a recipe of hers, or something you know she loved, in the welcome bags or something like that would be a nice idea.

At my grandfather’s funeral, we gave everyone a Hershey bar and drank his favorite beer (the only beer he’d drink), since those were 2 of his favorite things. It was a way to remember him that made people smile in the middle of the sadness.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

Awww…so sorry. This happened to my cousin…my Aunt died 3 days before her daughter’s wedding. We had the funeral and luncheon the day before the wedding, and they had the rehearsal and dinner that night.

It was hard to get through the wedding day, but something they just had to do. One thing they did forget about was to tell the band not to play the songs the bride’s Grandmother had requested be played,so when the first one started,there were lots of tears. 🙁

They also had a table display of all family wedding pictures they could gather,but in front of my Aunt’s picture they had a candle burning and a white rose placed. It was nice.

Best of luck to you on your wedding day!

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