(Closed) awful SIL (Long Vent)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

No you don’t. As long as they aren’t disrespectful, their mother determines what you are called. Get over it. So long as they aren’t calling you out of your name, if they’re calling you BY your name, that’s all that matters.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I find this post very confusing. What exactly are you upset about?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i do not usually condone children calling adults by their first names. It is probably a cultural thing, but i would be downright offended if a relative instructed their 5, 3 or 1 year old to address me as a peer.  Not only, would I be offended, I would say something to the parent.  If that didn’t seem to help, I would reiterate it with the child as many times as needed, “I love you too. Remember sweetheart, you call me Auntie Overjoyed, ok?” This should not be that confusing. Afterall, they understand that their parents and grandparents have grownup names that only other adults are allowed to use. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Some people get really offended when you try to push a familial label, I just wouldn’t push it. Kids will call you Aunt as they get older if they want to. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@andalke:  Your SIL sounds like a massive bitch. Just blow her off as much as possible when you have kids as an act of revenge. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@batwoman:  do you know why this is? It’s very counterintuitive to me that a parent wiuld take offense to her wanting to be called “aunt” when she actually is the child’s aunt. (were she a Girlfriend or something, different story IMO)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Overjoyed:  I have no idea, I just know a few people who are like that. I think it’s a “you aren’t a blood relation so I get to call the shots” sort of attitude.  Undecided  

It just sounds like there are plenty of things to call out the SIL on in this situation and generally starting out with something not to do with her kids would probably be best. Some parents seem to think they get a free pass on rude behavior if it relates to their children somehow. 

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