Well, I’m gonna start with a couple of positives… you lucky duck! Hahaha! San Antonio in September is such a gamble and the weather has been so beautiful. I’m so glad that the weather worked out for you.
Also, Pappasito’s? They’re crazy for leaving for pizza and beer if there was Pappasito’s! No offense to all of the pizza and beer of the world, I love you just the same, but Pappasito’s? Sooooo delicious!
And to round out all of the positives, YOU’RE MARRIED!! Congratulations! It’s such an unbeatable feeling to know that you’re best friend and love of your life will be there forever. Just remember that the day you two marry, as much love as you feel for him, it’s the least amount of love that you’ll feel because that love will continue to grow every day.
As far as the shennanigans on the day, I can kinda fell your pain. I knew from the get that my family and friends would have caused headache and frustration, so I didn’t even bother with the festivities. (Before I continue, I’m not saying you should have eloped, but this has to do with the vow renewal question.) I originally started planning a wedding, calling around and researching prices. At first I was comfortable with the amounts I was given and thought, “Hey, it’s not going to be as expensive as I thought.” Then the idea of everything getting ruined creeped up in my mind and I couldn’t fathom the thought of wasting so much money to serve people dinner so they can leave right after. I might as well just take them to dinner and have them congratulate me at Chili’s for a far cheaper meal. (Not endorsing Chili’s here)
We decided to elope to the place that meant the most to us. We had such a beautiful experience and so much fun celebrating our love without any interruption (that’s not a sex joke… although….) and couldn’t have been happier with our decision. We figured that it’s all about us and our union anyway so every year we take a trip in celebration of our marriage. At the time of our original marriage (which, for you would be 1pm ish), we stop and hold hands and do a mini vow exchange that reflects on the year past and how we will cherish each other for the year to come. We don’t have an officiant or a crowd, just us.
We bring a camera and a tripod and get a special, beautiful picture and then continue to enjoy our trip.
Now, as far as your vow renewal, I know other PPs have mentioned that it won’t help with the ruined day and I agree with that on a certain level. Since I’m such a frugal person most of the time, I would be upset with wasted money and inconsiderate people and saying, “I do” to your husband again won’t make that go away. However, since the day was so frustrating for you, if there was a chance that your pictures were ruined by fake smiles and irritated looks, I would definitely say to go for it and get another photo shoot so that your memories there aren’t tarnished.
Whatever you decide to do, just try to be happy in your marriage because that’s ultimately what it’s all about. And go get some Pappasito’s for dinner!
ETA: I totally forgot to mention the donuts and coffee! Seriously… I’m a little bummed that I wasn’t there. Lol!