(Closed) Awkwaaard….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

OMG!!! a total awkward turtle (google it lol) moment! I had a similar experience as soon as I announced I was engaged a friend from school volunteered herself AND anotherfriend to be bridesmaids!!! We were close but not THAT close in the end I didnt know how to get out of it and ended up making them my bridesmaids lol I hate confrontations!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i will explained to her that you already chose your bridesmaid and only three because you want a small wedding party!

Post # 5
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494 posts
Helper bee

Wow!!!!!! You would think after a year that she would realize that shes not a bridesmaid. Thats a little crazy. I think I would distance myself from that girl.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s crazy that people just assume they’re in your bridal party. I think if you’ve already explained to her that you’re keeping the party relatively small, that’s really all you can do. Hopefully she’ll understand! If it makes you feel any better, I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a girls wedding almost 3 years ago and have hardly spoke to her since, but ever since I got engaged, she’s been not-so-casually hinting around that she wants to be one in mine. It’s awkward, but I just try to change the subject lol. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

o dear that’s awkward.  i wonder why she asked after you being engaged for a year.  i haven’t had someone assume they’re in the wedding party but i did have someone assume they’re invited to the wedding.  i managed to wiggle out of that comment without saying anything to them.  i feel terrible but they’re a brother of a friend of my Fiance, and Fiance and him are not super close.  blarg

Post # 8
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494 posts
Helper bee

It amazes me how many people just come up and invite themselves to your wedding….or ask if they are getting an invite. I would never do that.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

Yes, I had a friend ask me to not put her in a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that had a bow on it.  I brushed over the question and made some joke about a prom dress from the 80’s.  Fortunately for me – we decided to ditch the wedding party all together – so, no picking – but, I think you did GREAT!  It’s a situation that would definitely catch one off guard!!!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Eep that’s so presumptious to assume that you were going to include her.  Maybe she doesn’t feel the rift between you as much as you do?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah, it’s so weird! I had friends ask to be bridesmaids and I told them I was still planning the bridal party with FH…then after I asked some of these same people to be bridesmaids, now they complain about not enough time, too much money, ugly dresses, etc! Bizarre.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Mr. Turtle's Grandparents' backyard, Arroyo Grande, CA

I dealt with the same thing, except it was three girls who expected to be a part of our wedding party! I was actually with them when a random person asked if they were going to be my bridesmaids. Umm… awkwaaard. I pretty much just avoided the whole topic with them, and they found out they weren’t bridesmaids as other people found out, through our wedding web site, etc. Probably not the best way for me to deal with it, but it worked out totally fine and they’re happily coming to the wedding as guests!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

Oh God that IS awkward!  I have no idea how I would handle that…but it sounds like you played it off perfectly!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

oooooh that’s uncomfortable. 🙁

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