Post # 1
I’m not a very social bee. I never have been. My parents kind of forced me into sports since I was little kid so I’m not anti-social for a lack of trying.
Anyway, I just got engaged back in May. I’m super excited to plan everything until I start writing down my list of guests. It’s literally all family. I’m also going to have a small bridal party. My bestfriend, my cousin, and a close friend I met through work.
At first it really didn’t bother me, but my mom keeps making comments about how small my bridal party is going to be and how I’ll have no friends at my wedding. Which is true, but I don’t want to invite people who haven’t even met my Fiance.
I’m just feeling really bummed about it. Any body experiencing the same thing?
Post # 2
That seems like an average sized bridal party to me. More is not always merrier if you know what I mean!
Don’t let her make you feel bad! Weddings should be for your nearest and dearest and it sounds like you have that covered.
Post # 3
My moh is my friend from high school. One of my bridesmaids is my future sister in law, and my other bridesmaid is another friend from high school. I wouldn’t say I have a best friend and my moh is definitely closer to other girls. Anyways, 3 people on your side is just fine.
Post # 4
mintobebride: I’m in a similar situation…my bridal party of 3 is just my sister and his two sisters. Whenever anyone asks why so small, I just say that I didn’t want to deal with the hassle of keeping track of 6 girls, 3 is hard enough.
Dont let your mom make you feel bad, I think they are just old school and think bridal parties need to be every single friend you have. Traditions are changing.
Post # 5
If 3 is small, what is average? What’s too many?
Post # 6
I had one bridesmaid and it was awesome. Tell your mom that’s how you want it and to stop being a jerk.
Post # 7
Soooooo…you’re not who your mom thought you’d be huh? I say this gently but it sounds like your parents pushed you to socialize and to learn extrovert skills, etc but you’re a happy introvert! Except when someone repeatedly tells you that your way is wrong or not enough or….ppppfffffft. You were happy and excited planning your wedding. Get back there Bee and enjoy who YOU want to share your day with.
Post # 8
I have my sis as Maid/Matron of Honor, my Future Sister-In-Law as Bridesmaid or Best Man and a friend I met 4 years ago as the other Bridesmaid or Best Man. I have literraly my mom, dad,brother and sis (MOH) as my family at the wedding (THAT’S IT!) and like 5-6 people that are our mutual friends that we met together in the last 4 years and 1 friend from my work (and a +1) EVERYONE else is either FIs family, or friends from way before he met me. The total guest count will be ariund 75people.
Post # 9
I just want to say thank you to everyone who has commented so far. You’ve honestly made me feel so much better!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2016 - Theater
My sisters are my MOHs and my SO’s sister is hers. So between the two of us there’s three people. It’s fine! Honestly I don’t have any friends dependable enough I’d make them a Bridesmaid or Best Man, haha.
It’s okay to not have a massive friend-filled party fest for a wedding and have a dozen BMs and MOHs and I don’t even know who else. It’s okay to do it your way. Tell your mom to suck it up if she keeps persisting. It’s you and your FIs day, and you’re doing it the way you want it and like it.
Post # 11
Yeah, I kinda feel the same. 3 is normal tho. I don’t think the number of bridesmaids necessarily reflects how social someone is or the depth of their relationships with those people – I’ve known super social gals who only had 1 bridesmaid. It’s a superficial measure of how social or friendly or well-adjusted you are, anyway. I think you will feel like there are more than enough people there on the day of. Try not to worry and try to enjoy planning while it’s not crazy stressful.
Post # 12
mintobebride: I had 4, could have done with three or even two! I don’t see it as too small, or small. I think anything 5+ large. My SIL is having like 8 plus a junior bridesmaid. Its whatever you want and I don’t think it’s awkward at all!!!
Post # 13
My fiance and I aren’t very social either. Our entire guest list is at 20 people. We’re not inviting any friends because we’re not close enough with anyone. We have “social friends” you could say.
My bridal party is a total of ONE and she’s my twin sister! Don’t sweat it!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Our guest count is 40! Close family and a couple friends. You’re fine. Dont worry about how anyone else thinks of your plans as long as your happy thats all that matters. There will be four bridesmaids, 3 sisters and my Fiance cousin whom I met only a week ago. (but shes the sweetest) One of those sisters almost didnt make it bc truthfully I dont care for her much but my mom started meddling so here I am. I would have been fine with 2 in the bridal party. Neither I nor my Fiance are super social we tend to enjoy the company of each other and family thats about it. It will still be an incredible day for you. 🙂
Besides you dont need a bunch of friends at your wedding. You’re marrying the best one you’ll ever have that day!
Post # 15
mintobebride: I’m in the same boat as you but I don’t feel awkward about it at all. I used to be so insecure about it, but now, I’m realizing it’s just how I am, and that’s ok.
For my BMS, I wanted to have 5 to match Fiance. One straight told me no (used the excuse of not knowing what to do with her kids when I asked her a year in advance) so I’m down to 4. 2 friends of mine, my cousin..and then FIs cousin lol. I’m just going to roll with it.
3 to 4 BMs is kinda average anyway. As far as inviting people, I would invite who you want to. There are people who I’m inviting that have not met Fiance, and that’s fine to me. Invite who you want to celebrate with. Don’t feel awkward about it.
I think you are being a little hard on yourawlf- but I do get where you are coming from.