Post # 31
I am in the same situation, and feel like it has really pressured me to do some type of non traditional wedding, because by the time I ahve my close friends in the bridal party, I would have none to actually invite.
Think of it this way, wouldn’t you rather your genuine friends standing with you rather than have your most special event with those who aren’t close to you? I am sure your wedding will be beautiful and authentic. Don’t let others make you feel bad about it.
Post # 32
Congratulations first of all! It is your special day and you get to decide who attends and who will stand up with you. NO ONE ELSE gets to choose. Don’t let your Mom make you feel bad about your decision.
Plan the day the way you want and be happy. That’s what weddings are supposed to be all about; a day of celebrating your love and commitment. No one else should have the power to take that away from you Bee. Good luck!
Post # 33
mintobebride: I actually had a breakdown and almost canceled my wedding for the same reason. I have one friend invited, and aside from her, my bridal party is all family. So are my guests. I even thought about going out of my way to reconnect with old friends or try to make new ones just so I would have more people to invite. But I’ve decided that the point of having a wedding (and not eloping like awkward me really wanted to) was to celebrate with the people who love me. Inviting people for the sake of looking more social kind of defeats that purpose, will cost more money, and won’t make me happy. And being an introvert has never bothered me before all this wedding stuff began. So I’m dealing with it. If anyone asks, I say I have a large family and there just wasn’t room in the budget to invite more, or I’m happier having family.
Editing to add that posters above are right, three is a perfect number. A lot of the weddings I’ve been to recently have had even less. I hate that your mom is the one pressuring you, but I think you’re just fine 🙂
Post # 34
If it makes you feel any better I am forgoing a bridal party because I really don’t have enough girlfriends. I am also forgoing a bridal shower and bachelorette for the same reason. Doesn’t bother me! It is what it is. Not every person is the same and its okay if you have a smaller social circle. I don’t think it means that you are awkward by any means.
Post # 35
mintobebride: Your bridal party is just the right size! I am in the same boat. Mine is my sister, his sister, and my closest friend/former roommate. We each have a handful of friends coming, but they’re all the people we want there. My parents even tried suggesting friends from elementary school or high school… I don’t spend time with them now and haven’t for years. Why would I invite them to my WEDDING?!
Post # 36
I think 3 is perfect! You really only want those you are closest to, and the more people you have, the higher likelihood there is of drama happening. I’m just having my sister and I couldn’t be happier about it!