Post # 1
So, in March of 2011, I ended a relationship with a guy I had met while working in Florida, because he started getting bi-polar and just all around creepy. Today I got a call from one of my friends I worked with there who I haven’t seen since December 2010 asking me if I was over him. I groaned and said “Oh, god, why? Is he still asking about me?” She said kind of, and she didn’t know what to do because she’s completely in love with him and she starts asking me advice on how to date him.
I’m his ex-girlfriend, so I’m obviously not going to have many nice things to say about him, especially since he got so creepy towards the end of our relationship. He is apparently giving her the brush off, and saying that he’s not completely over me and is still pretty devastated, but she is apparently like OBSESSED with him. I honestly think they would make a cute couple, but she can be a little possessive and creepy, so I can see why he is not reciprocating.
I haven’t spoken to either of them in a year and a half, and now all this is coming out of the blue, and I’m throughly creeped out by all of it.
We could only talk for like 10 minutes because I was on my lunch break and I had to get back to work, but I said I’d call her tomorrow. I feel like she put me in a really awkward position, and I want to steer her away from him, but I have a feeling she won’t listen.
Ugh. Help? haha
Post # 3
I have no advice to offer but I think it’s weird that she called you about him. The whole thing sounds creepy and weird and for some reason, I envision them both as looking like those gross brothers from It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia…don’t know why…
Post # 4
I would just be matter of fact with her. Tell her you can see the reasons why she likes him and why they’d be a good fit – but, there were certain things that were red flags for you, which is why you ended the relationship.
You don’t have to slam him or tell her not to date him… at the end of the day, she’s got to make up her mind – and, she’s fortunately she has you as a resource!
…also, keep in mind that everything you say will likely get back to him… so, I’d steer clear of details and just paint the big picture. If she presses you for more, just tell her you aren’t comfortable sharing anymore and you feel you’ve given her ample to go on.
Post # 6
I probably just wouldnt call her back. The fact that you havent spoken to each other in over a year and then she calls for advice and approval…kind of weird. But, if you do call her back, I would just keep it short and sweet. Tell her a few reasons why it ended between you two and wish her the best.
Post # 7
Sounds like they might deserve each other.
You’re between a rock and hard place on this one, hon. Don’t call her back or answer your phone if she calls you. She’ll get the hint it’s not a topic of conversation you’re interested in pursuing.
Post # 8
I’m trying to be as unbiased as I can because he wasn’t all bad, but just thinking about him creeps me out, and I don’t want that carrying over into present day.
I also thought it was weird that she asked me if I could put in a good word for her so that maybe if he thought I was cool with it, he would be okay with dating her. I told her that wouldn’t work because I haven’t spoken to him since the day we broke up and I couldn’t just randomly call him and be like “Hey ex, date my friend!”
I honestly don’t think I’m the reason he doesn’t want to date her. She’s a little kooky, and I think it has more to do with that than the fact that we were friends and now she wants to date him. They knew each other at the time we were dating, and she apparently has liked him since then.
Ugh…creepy ex drama….why…haha
Post # 9
That’s really weird and would make me totally uncomfortable.
If she is in another state, then I dont see why you cant just say to her that it makes you uncomfortable and you dont really want to get into it about him with her. I mean, really, how often will you see her again?
Post # 10
You might have to just let her deal with making that mistake on her own. Don’t talk to either of them again.