(Closed) Awkward can of worms that just opened…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have no advice to offer but I think it’s weird that she called you about him.  The whole thing sounds creepy and weird and for some reason, I envision them both as looking like those gross brothers from It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia…don’t know why…

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I would just be matter of fact with her.  Tell her you can see the reasons why she likes him and why they’d be a good fit – but, there were certain things that were red flags for you, which is why you ended the relationship. 

You don’t have to slam him or tell her not to date him… at the end of the day, she’s got to make up her mind – and, she’s fortunately she has you as a resource!

…also, keep in mind that everything you say will likely get back to him… so, I’d steer clear of details and just paint the big picture.  If she presses you for more, just tell her you aren’t comfortable sharing anymore and you feel you’ve given her ample to go on.

Post # 5
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2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

yeah its just weird..

Post # 6
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I probably just wouldnt call her back. The fact that you havent spoken to each other in over a year and then she calls for advice and approval…kind of weird. But, if you do call her back, I would just keep it short and sweet. Tell her a few reasons why it ended between you two and wish her the best.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like they might deserve each other. 

You’re between a rock and hard place on this one, hon.  Don’t call her back or answer your phone if she calls you.  She’ll get the hint it’s not a topic of conversation you’re interested in pursuing.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s really weird and would make me totally uncomfortable.

If she is in another state, then I dont see why you cant just say to her that it makes you uncomfortable and you dont really want to get into it about him with her. I mean, really, how often will you see her again?

Post # 10
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4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You might have to just let her deal with making that mistake on her own. Don’t talk to either of  them again.

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