Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where to post this, but an awkward thing happened, an ex-bf well not even ex-bf, but a man I was seeing along time ago like 2006-2007, well his wife sent me a friend request on facebook, who does that? The man doesn’t even live in town anymore, and he just disappeared from my life when he left in 2007, didn’t even know he was going, and he may or may not have been married, I saw pictures on facebook 2 years ago that said he got married in 2008. I never knew if he was married or engaged, he never had family pics or a wedding ring, just seems weird he got married like a year after he left my town. I just don’t understand how this girl even got my name unless she looked at his facebook because two years ago he sent me a message saying sorry I just disappeared and hurt you like I did. Why is she trying to be my friend on facebook years later? this is weird! I am happily engaged and of course will deny my request but what the heck is her motive to friending me on facebook?
Post # 3
She probably wants to see if you are a threat to her at all. I would say to not accept her friends request unless you want some type of drama in your life.
Post # 4
Are you FB friends with him?
If he was cheating on her with you, she may have found out (years later) and be trying to put the pieces together.
I would send her a message and say, “I’m sorry, how do I know you?” and see if she has questions for you or something.
Post # 5
She may also be one of those people who adds everyone that Facebook suggests.
Post # 6
i get friend requests from people i don’t know. when i ask them if i know them, they usually say that i was on their recommended friend list… you know on the side where it says ‘people you may know’ because facebook plays ‘six degrees of kevin bacon’ with your profile.
Post # 7
hmm that is strange… I think the “how do i know you” pm would be best
Post # 8
Just ignore her fb request and don’t even go down that road seems like trouble
Post # 9
Sounds like she’s snooping for something – I wouldn’t even give her the opportunity
Post # 10
do you have your facebook private? if so she is probably trying to creep and wants to be able to stalk your pictures lol
Post # 12
Just deny it. I can’t see any good coming out of that.
Post # 13
Wow, such negative opinions of this woman! She probably just added you because you are her husband’s friend, or you have some friends in common. Don’t deny the request, but don’t accept it either. That way she can’t try again, and you don’t have to worry about it. No big deal.
Post # 14
@peachacid: You’re only supposed to send friend requests to people you know personally. The OP does not know this woman, and is not friends on FB with her husband.
Per Facebook: Facebook is a place for connecting with friends, family, and other people you know personally. You should send friend requests to people you have a real-life connection to, like your friends, family, coworkers, or classmates.
Post # 15
Where does it say she is not his facebook friend? Everyone jumped very quickly to demonize this woman for something that is probably innocent. And…I love how you quote facebook’s rules, but let’s be honest…how many people actually follow the rules 100%?
Post # 16
I think regardless of the woman’s motives, it would make for an awkward situation that is best avoided. Just deny the friend request and move forward…no looking back! 🙂