(Closed) Awkward gift situation

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What would you do?

    Give them a card only and no further gift

    Buy a "shower" gift and pretend I forgot to send it sooner

    Pretend the wedding gift was the shower gift and give a gift for the wedding of a smaller amount

    Something else (specify below)

  • Post # 2
    52 posts
    Worker bee

    How close did you send the wedding gift to the time of the shower?  I would say if it was very close to the shower (within a few weeks) I could understand the confusion on what the gift is for.  I think I would do the “forgot to send the shower gift” or just the card and call it a day.

    Post # 3
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I’ve never heard of someone sending a shower gift when they couldn’t attend the shower… I dont have much bridal shower experience but if I couldnt make someones shower that would mean they dont get a shower gift from me…

    I wouldn’t be too quick to assume that she considers this a bridal shower gift and not your wedding gift. Just dont get her anything else… she’ll realize that was her wedding gift…. 

    I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and say there’s no way someone would just assume they should get TWO expensive gifts for their wedding… you get ONE!!

    Post # 5
    1338 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would just give a card. 

    Post # 7
    2452 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I understand her confusion with it being only days after her shower and still a couple weeks before her wedding. I got a lot of gifts sent to me from people who couldn’t attend the shower. Either way, her confusion doesn’t require you to give her another gift. I’d just write her a nice wedding card and mention the gift you gave her, like “I hope you love the ____!” or “I hope you’ll get a lot of use out of ___!”. She’ll realize it was meant as a wedding gift. 

    Post # 8
    52 posts
    Worker bee

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    goblueca:  I would say just give them a card then.  

    Post # 9
    7553 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    I would give them a card and let them put two and two together.

    Post # 10
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee

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    ChrissyMary9515:  I would do this OP – that way she doesn’t think you didn’t get them a wedding gift and you don’t have to worry.

    Post # 11
    3879 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Just a card.

    Post # 12
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee

    Nothing further is needed here. Just give them a card.

    Post # 13
    392 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’d do the drop off shower gift and say you forgot.  I assumed for gifts that were close to shower that they were shower gifts and when my aunt put just her name on it, I assumed it was shower.  So maybe she just didn’t get a card with the gift? I know that happens sometimes and I had to go off of what was on the packing slip.

    Post # 14
    975 posts
    Busy bee

    I would just bring a card to the wedding. If you wanted to, you could also put something in the card like : 

    Congrats on your special day! DH and I wish you nothing but a lifetime of happiness together. We hope that the Le Creuset pot we sent you will be useful as you start your new life together. Love you guys!

    Post # 15
    30402 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would give a card with my best wishes. I would include a separate note( so it is not permanently in the card if she is the type to keep her wedding cards)  saying that I was amazed to get her thank you not so promptly given the demand on brides planning weddings. I would say I was happy the wedding gift  arrived safely and hope they enjoy using it.

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