- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Hi Bee’s. I guess I’ve found myself in an awkward gift situation and I’m not sure what to do.
We just got engaged this July, bought a house in September, & this past week was my birthday. A married couple that were friends with also just bought a house in September and moved in and invited a group over for a house warming party. It was also the wife’s birthday the day before mine. The party was the first time we’ve seen this couple since June(?). Well, it turned out that not many people were planning on attending and so they asked us to come over earlier and just meet them for lunch – so not really a party just a normal casual Saturday lunch. We met them at their new house, they gave us the tour and we left to eat lunch and went to Ikea with them too.
Anyways, while we were there they gave us a really nice gift as a house warming/engagement/birthday gift – wine, bread, olive oil, sea salt, a potted plant, photo frames, candles, cupcakes, and a target gift card. It had a really cute card with a reason behind all the gifts and was really nice. I thanked her several times before we left. I never expected her to get us anything – we’re still remodeling our house before we can even move in and probably won’t have our own house warming party until spring… But I can’t help but feel like I should have taken her a gift? I never even thought about it, we’re new to these ‘house warming parties’ (especially 1 that didnt really happen). The only other one I’ve been invited to I did take them a small gift but it was just some chocolates.
My fiance thought we should buy her something in return because she spent a good bit of money on us, but I feel weird sending them something like it’s “paying them back” for the gift. I considered paying for their lunch when we were out but another friend met up with us to eat too so that didn’t seem right. What do you think? Do we send them a gift? A formal thank you card? Was thanking them in person enough?