(Closed) Awkward Guest List Situation

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think that he should talk to her about why he removed those people from the list. Are you guys paying for the wedding? If so, you have full reign of the guest list, and it’s completely within your rights to not want to invite people you don’t know. I would just explain to her that you only want people there who you know personally!

Post # 4
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1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally agree with Amanada lynn. Your Fiance should definitely talk to her though. The through-the-grape-vine kind of communication can really end up badly, with people mad and things misunderstood. It’s totally understandable to only want people you know there.

Post # 5
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639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the ladies above.  I think it does need to be brought up between your FH and his mother so that she hears it from him and not just through a third party.  For me, its a respect issue to have the conversation with her about it in person.  I’d just have a frank discussion about the need to shorten the list and your desire to not have people you don’t know there.  

Post # 7
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368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would talk with Future Mother-In-Law together and see if you can come to some sort of compromise that you two are okay with. If she is contributing then you should at least be open to her suggestions.

Post # 8
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1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was fully prepared to decline money that came with strings, too.  I’d rather pay for it to be my way, than have my parents or in-laws pay and have free reign over the guest list.

I think you or FH still need talk to her and let her know who you cut and why.  It’s totally understandable that you wouldn’t want strangers at your wedding.  Hopefully she’ll be reasonable.

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