(Closed) Awkward invitation question…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Are you close enough with her to ask if she needs help getting any loose ends tied up if she DIY’ed the invites, or even help getting them stuffed, postage, and ready to go? Or I suppose if she answers “I sent them out already” that could be even more awkward?

I would definitely start with the mutual friend, and go from there…! Good luck!

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t feel awkward, its entirely possible yours was lost in the mail! If she’s told you multiple times that you’re invited, you most likely are. If for some reason she had to cut the guest list, maybe she was too embarrassed to tell you as well? I’m sure this will be awkward for everybody 🙂 But I say you just straight up ask her. “Hey I know your wedding date is coming up and I haven’t gotten an invitation yet – if you had to had to cut the guest list I totally understand but I just wanted to make sure my invite isn’t lost in the mail?” Just emphasize how much you don’t mind just in case you aren’t invited anymore. I’m sure it’s probably nothing, but open communication is probably the best bet 🙂

Post # 6
2091 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t know if it’s the same situation, but my cousin got married a couple years back and when her friend and herself did her invites for her pre-wedding parties, they simply didn’t send invites to people that knew 100% that they were invited. She did it to cut costs on invites. They figured these people (super close friends and immediate family) already knew they were invited and already knew the date/time/place so she didn’t bother sending them a formal invite.

*shrug* Again, no idea what your situation really is, but it’s just a thought.

Post # 7
17 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Next time she brings up the wedding, just ask her straight up about the invites.  It’s a possibility the invite did actually get lost in the mail. She could be wondering why you didn’t RSVP yet.

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