Post # 1
I found a salon to do the hair and makeup for myself the bridal party. I’ve gotten my hair cut there before and they’re wonderful. Bonus: the bridal hair and makeup are reasonably priced! The problem? The salon is owned my cousin’s husband and they aren’t invited to the wedding. Actually, no family on my side is currently invited so that’s awkward. We’ve only hung out two or three times in the last two years so we’re not exactly close.
One bridesmaid has directed me to either invite them or find another salon. So do I suck it up and find another salon?
Post # 3
I think you need to make a list of pros and cons to inviting them, that would help me give an opinion…it doesn’t seem black and white, are there family issues? Would they be offended? Is it a $ thing?
Post # 4
There are tons of family issues! The reason none of my family is invited is because my mom was unhappy with the guest list. She didn’t like that it was immediate family only and none of her brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, or cousins would be invited. At least that’s how I see it. If I invited everyone she wanted, it’d be impossible to afford. So then it bleeds into the money issue.
I guess what I’m trying to say, if I invite that cousin it’s going to make its way back to her (we’re not talking) and start everything all over again. Which is something I would greatly like to avoid. Having said that, I think I know that I have to find another salon. If not for my cousin to avoid being uncomfortable (I think it’ll be obvious why they’re invited and no other family is), but for my own sanity.
Post # 5
A true professional would simply take the business with a smile and silently assume they were not invited due to size/ budjet restrictions. If/ when you speak, be sure to mention that you are having a very intimate ceremony. If you guys are on good terms with eachother, they should be fine, and might even see it as an opportunity to have a special part of your wedding. HOWEVER, if you feel that this will make the morning of your wedding at all uncomfertable, I’d choose another salon in a heartbeat! It’s not worth the anxiety when you have so much else on your plate.
Post # 6
i agree with blueandcream. i personally would not be offended if i was the cousin and knew you were only having an intimate wedding with immediate family only.
Post # 7
I would just book another salon to save any impending drama. You want your day to be easy and smooth and it seems like it could be a possible roadbump enough to ruin your getting ready process.
Post # 8
I would also probably just book another salon. I would feel very awkward being at a salon owned by my cousin’s husband getting my hair done for my wedding, but knowing that they aren’t invited.
Post # 9
Does your cousin’s husband work there or just own it? If they weren’t going to be there, then I would totally go. You could book it under another name if you wanted.
If I owned the salon and my cousin came in to spend money at my business and didn’t invite me, it wouldn’t bother me. And since you said you aren’t close, I wouldn’t be upset I wasn’t invited anyway. That’s just me though!
Post # 10
Personally I would just book another salon and save myself the stress and hassle and awkwardness.
Post # 11
Personally I would call them and tell them exactly whats going on. I am sure they will understand considering it is an immediate family only. Its always easier to talk to the person directly so that further drama is avoided.
Post # 12
Thanks for the advice! I’m going to find another salon. I’d rather avoid the possibility of any issues or stress and pay a little bit more. A stress-free day is totally worth it!
Post # 13
I think they will understand that you are having a smaller, intimate wedding, and will be happy that you are giving them business. What would cause problems is inviting them, and not any other extended family.
I say, stick with them since the prices are good and you know the services are too! They will already know from the family grapevine that you are getting married, but keeping it small, but it doesn’t hurt to say a few words about it to them when you book.