(Closed) awkward invite — do I invite the cousin or no?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you need to make a list of pros and cons to inviting them, that would help me give an opinion…it doesn’t seem black and white, are there family issues? Would they be offended? Is it a $ thing? 

Post # 5
33 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

A true professional would simply take the business with a smile and silently assume they were not invited due to size/ budjet restrictions. If/ when you speak, be sure to mention that you are having a very intimate ceremony. If you guys are on good terms with eachother, they should be fine, and might even see it as an opportunity to have a special part of your wedding. HOWEVER, if you feel that this will make the morning of your wedding at all uncomfertable, I’d choose another salon in a heartbeat! It’s not worth the anxiety when you have so much else on your plate.

Post # 6
11259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i agree with blueandcream.  i personally would not be offended if i was the cousin and knew you were only having an intimate wedding with immediate family only.

Post # 7
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would just book another salon to save any impending drama. You want your day to be easy and smooth and it seems like it could be a possible roadbump enough to ruin your getting ready process.

Post # 8
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would also probably just book another salon. I would feel very awkward being at a salon owned by my cousin’s husband getting my hair done for my wedding, but knowing that they aren’t invited.

Post # 9
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Does your cousin’s husband work there or just own it?  If they weren’t going to be there, then I would totally go.  You could book it under another name if you wanted.  

If I owned the salon and my cousin came in to spend money at my business and didn’t invite me, it wouldn’t bother me.  And since you said you aren’t close, I wouldn’t be upset I wasn’t invited anyway.  That’s just me though!


Post # 10
128 posts
Blushing bee

Personally I would just book another salon and save myself the stress and hassle and awkwardness.

Post # 11
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally I would call them and tell them exactly whats going on. I am sure they will understand considering it is an immediate family only. Its always easier to talk to the person directly so that further drama is avoided.

Post # 13
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think they will understand that you are having a smaller, intimate wedding, and will be happy that you are giving them business. What would cause problems is inviting them, and not any other extended family.

I say, stick with them since the prices are good and you know the services are too! They will already know from the family grapevine that you are getting married, but keeping it small, but it doesn’t hurt to say a few words about it to them when you book.

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