Post # 1
So we’re looking at having our reception at a barn we found nearby that’s usually rented out for birthday parties, square dances, stuff like that. For a Saturday it would be $350 for the entire day from the morning to come set up and the reception can run until midnight! Fantastic deal and this is the only place we’ve found that we like and can afford.
Here’s the problem. The man that owns it is 98 years old, and while he’s doing well now, I can’t help but worry something could happen to him before the wedding next year. Can anyone suggest a tacktful way to ask, “What happens if you kick the bucket?”
Post # 3
Is there someone else that helps him out?
Post # 4
@lauraq123: Him and his wife live there, but she doesn’t handle any of the rentals.
Post # 5
Can you write out a contract so that in case anything happens to him, his “assigns” has to honor the deal?
Post # 6
I would see who owns the place and if anyone else is in charge or helping him out. If you do decide to go with him make sure you have great wedding insurance that will cover you should something awful happen.
Post # 7
Just get a contract and wedding insurance.
Post # 8
getting a contract is the best way..just tell him you need to have a signed contract for wedding insurance- which would be totally true
Post # 9
“Who will take care of everything if you’re out of town or otherwise unavailable?” Just make it clear that your concern is that if for any reason he is unavailable (he is sick, or um, dead… or that someone else is ill, or he has to take care of a family emergency) you want to be sure someone will be able to assist with everything.
ETA: +1 to the contract and wedding insurance options.
Post # 10
There simply is no way to tactfully ask “what happens if he kicks the bucket?” LOL!
I’m sort of in the same situation – Our wedding is being held at my FMIL’s house, in her backyard garden. The thing is, she rents her home, she doesn’t own. But the garden is lovely and a perfect venue for us. My Future Mother-In-Law is 83 and in very poor health. The thought recently occurred to me – what if she got much sicker or passed away before our wedding? Where would it be held then, if her garden space was no longer available, due to being rented to someone else?
So, if you figure this one out, please let me know. I’ll be interested to see what everyone else says.
Post # 11
@SoupyCat: I think I’m going to have to write up something, he doesn’t usually have a contract.
@Treejewel19: I looked into wedding insurance, but it looks like that would just cover the loss of the $350, which isn’t really what I’m worried about! I could survive losing that but I couldn’t find another venue for that little money!
He’s the one who owns the barn, handles all of the rentals, etc. He’s very capable and with it right now, I just worry that something could happen between now and then!
Post # 12
I don’t know if there a polite way to put that. But perhaps asking for backup plans or second in command?
Post # 13
well lady I wouldn’t say “kick the bucket” lol although thats an awesome phrase to describe something thats ….well….less than awesome.
I would simply phrase it as “what would happen if ownership changes or if the current owner is no longer responsible for the venue for some reason. Would my event be taken care of by whoever may take over? is that something the venue would make sure of for me if that were the case?”
basically you don’t have to bring up death as the cause. You can ask the question without directly referring to unpleasant details 🙂
Post # 14
@CaliHoya: “Who will take care of everything if you’re out of town or otherwise unavailable?”
Aha! That’s pretty much exactly what I was looking for! I just want to make sure he has some kind of back up plan, or someone lined up to take care of the barn and the events being held there.
ETA: I would never actually ask what happens if he kicks the bucket!!!
Post # 15
Does anyone know what exactly wedding insurance covers? Is it just that it would get me my $350 back if we couldn’t have the reception there?