(Closed) Awkward question that I don't know how to ask.

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Is there someone else that helps him out?

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Can you write out a contract so that in case anything happens to him, his “assigns” has to honor the deal?

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper

I would see who owns the place and if anyone else is in charge or helping him out. If you do decide to go with him make sure you have great wedding insurance that will cover you should something awful happen.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

Just get a contract and wedding insurance.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

getting a contract is the best way..just tell him you need to have a signed contract for wedding insurance- which would be totally true

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

“Who will take care of everything if you’re out of town or otherwise unavailable?” Just make it clear that your concern is that if for any reason he is unavailable (he is sick, or um, dead… or that someone else is ill, or he has to take care of a family emergency) you want to be sure someone will be able to assist with everything.

ETA: +1 to the contract and wedding insurance options.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

There simply is no way to tactfully ask “what happens if he kicks the bucket?”  LOL! 

I’m sort of in the same situation –  Our wedding is being held at my FMIL’s house, in her backyard garden.  The thing is, she rents her home, she doesn’t own.  But the garden is lovely and a perfect venue for us.  My Future Mother-In-Law is 83 and in very poor health.  The thought recently occurred to me – what if she got much sicker or passed away before our wedding?  Where would it be held then, if her garden space was no longer available, due to being rented to someone else? 

So, if you figure this one out, please let me know.  I’ll be interested to see what everyone else says.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know if there a polite way to put that. But perhaps asking for backup plans or second in command?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

well lady I wouldn’t say “kick the bucket” lol although thats an awesome phrase to describe something thats ….well….less than awesome.

I would simply phrase it as “what would happen if ownership changes or if the current owner is no longer responsible for the venue for some reason. Would my event be taken care of by whoever may take over? is that something the venue would make sure of for me if that were the case?”

basically you don’t have to bring up death as the cause. You can ask the question without directly referring to unpleasant details 🙂

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