(Closed) Awkward Reactions to My Short Wedding Dress…

posted 12 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Newbee

You are SOOOO not making a mistake! You have done what any other bride gets to do before her wedding…..you fell in love with a dress and chose to wear it on your special day. Im sure that whatever is being said from your family is coming from a place of love and concern, but you’ll regret noy being true to your feelings by choosing a different dress.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

@mitla, yes it was. I saw my mother’s wedding pictures from the 70s awhile back and she was actually the first generation I have seen in my family/friends/acquaintances to wear a long wedding dress, and even hers wasn’t completely floor-length. The exception being a great-grandma from the turn of the century. Everyone else was wearing short dresses in their wedding pictures. So for someone’s mother or grandma to say it isn’t done, I would have to assume that they selectively forgot what was fashionable when they were the same age.

Post # 19
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

Same with my mom. My Future Mother-In-Law is 80 and has been married to Future Father-In-Law for over 50 years! She loves showing me her wedding pictures. She wore the cutest short dress and little gloves!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

It’s your wedding.  I agree that it’s difficult for them to know how you’ll feel in 20 years.  And I also agree that it sounds perfect for a garden party.

Just beware that as beautiful as you feel in it, they sound pretty opinionated.  So don’t expect them to just change their minds on the dress when they see it at the wedding.  Unfortuantely, they seem set in their idea of a wedding dress, and had no qualms about expressing that.  (Which to me is rude.)  But I wouldn’t expect them to be any less rude in not telling you how beautiful you look.

Post # 21
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s your wedding – remember you cant please everyone and if you go against tradition and let people know ahead of time you will face alot of opposition.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think that wedding dresses with shortened hems are going to be huge for 2010 … especially the ones that have pockets!!! Look so adorable with the addition of a bird cage veil or short veil too.

How awful that people are giving you this reaction … it’s your wedding … you do what you want!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Long dresses aren’t a tradition… both my grandmothers got married in really pretty tea length dresses in the 40s. You can do what you want! I’m wearing a big dress for a summer daytime wedding and I’m sure some people would think I should have gone more the way you are! They can do what they want for their weddings, I say – this is YOUR dress!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think its absolutely fine!  I think a lot of short dresses are FANTASTIC. Our wedding is just a little too formal for it. No worries – stay with the dress you love.

Post # 25
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You know yourself, and you know if you’ll regret not having a long, ‘traditional’ dress. Shame on those who make you second guess yourself when you’ve made your decision! There are plenty of short dress brides out there. This is YOUR day and YOUR dress! 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If you love your dress, wear it and wear it proud!

My dress is tea lenght so I’m a little biased. 😉

Post # 27
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

*sigh* i wish people would be more concerned about following etiquette rather than tradition. we should start a revolution. i understand that different regions/cultures have different etiquette standards, but if you are going to a wedding, i’d hope you know the guests of honor well enough to know what is proper etiquette for their wedding.

that being said, you should feel as absolutely comfortable and confident no matter what you choose to wear. if wearing a short dress is what you want, then go for it! never mind what anyone else says. they’ll all have/had a chance to dress themselves at their own weddings….if not, that’s not really your problem.

 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

@ladybuglove, I hear ya on that topic. So many people though confuse the two and think that etiquette is free to be changed at their every whim and supposedly doesn’t apply to anyone in this day and age but tradition must be clung to for dear life.

That said, the dress length has nothing to do with etiquette (which is about your guests’ comfort in social situations), neither does strapless vs not and the list goes on. It is in poor taste though for guests to judge and ridicule the bride’s personal tastes. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I got the same flack! Then people realized I was smart the day of! I rocked a tea length from JCrew for my outdoor wedding. I probably would have chosen short for even a traditional wedding bc 1. I’m way short and long dresses look weird on me 2. I’m always more about comfort. I loved my dress and found it 48hrs after we got engaged and never looked back. I did go to Davids Bridal just to please my family and about barfed…not my style. You do what you love! No matter what someone always has something to say but if you love it, who gives a damn!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I think a wedding dress is such a personal decision that it is terrible for other people to be upset about it, or mean to you about it. It’s your choice! Something to make you feel beautiful, special, and comfortable in your own skin. Shame on them. I do not think you will regret it, and if it turns out that you do, hey, throw a vow-renewal wedding for a big anniversary. That’s what my parents did! 🙂

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My parents would probably have the same reaction because they are so old fashion, but if I was not getting married in such a formal venue I would have a short dress as well. I am 5’2″, and look ridiculous in most long dresses. A short dress is very fitting for a garden wedding, and your guests will get over it.

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