Post # 1
My mom is throwing a shower for me and apparently a few of my girl friends haven’t RSVPed and they were supposed to by yesterday. Is it totally awkward if I ask them to RSVP? should my mom do it?
it makes me sad that they didn’t even RSVP either way! ugh! and I never thought of them as irresponsible like that. i suppose they aren’t my closest friends, but seriously, ick!
ha, match – their invite got lost in the mail or something!
Post # 3
I would have your mom call them.
Post # 4
I agree with Moose1209 – since your mom is the host, she should call and clarify whether they are coming or not.
Post # 5
I’d have your mom follow up with them, since she is throwing the shower. It might have just slipped their mind. I forgot to RSVP to a good friend’s wedding! She knew I was coming, but I got the invite and set it aside and it slipped my mind! It’s usually not intentional.
Post # 6
My co-worker never RSVP’d for my shower. Hello, you see me every day — that didn’t serve as a reminder? lol
But yes, I agree that your mom should call.
Post # 7
My best friends didn’t rsvp for my shower. I flat out asked them. If you’re not comfortable with that, it’s fine to have your mom do it since she’s the host.
Post # 8
I called mine if they were my friends or my dad’s family. My mom called them if they were her family or friends. We had several who didn’t rsvp & one that rsvp’ed and never showed.. and that was for the shower… I should have took that as a sign 🙂 hehe.
Post # 9
Have your mom call them. That’s what mine did.
Post # 10
My friends did the same thing. Its so annoying. If you’re mom is comfortable with it, she should just call them. Or maybe email is better for her? If they’re like my friends they just assume your mom knows they’ll be there. So I’m sure they don’t realize what an inconvenience this is.
Post # 11
Have your mom call them. Some people are just really bad at RSVPing which is highly annoying!
Post # 12
My friends would probably just assume that I knew they were coming… I’d just shoot them an email or something and ask.
Post # 13
Same problem here. My friends would tell me whether or not they were attending but didn’t relay that information to the hostess. The hostess thought not many people were attending until I told who all was coming. Can yiou remind your friends to RSVP to the hostess?
Post # 14
I had a close friend ask me about shower details when we went out to dinner. I asked her if she got her invite and she said no. My aunt didn’t receive hers either…darn USPS. My sister mailed out all the invites at the same time.
I ended up emailing 3 of my other friends to make sure they had received theirs. One emailed back she couldn’t make it, another said she was going to try and make it and the third never responded.
@Appless don’t be bummed about flaky friends, i had another friend who’s known about the shower for a month said she could make it. Then she emailed yesterday and said she decided to take a vacation, of all days–the weekend of my shower. Ah well.
Post # 15
thanks ladies for all your thoughts (and encouragement on flaky friends). i’m going to have my mother call!
Post # 16
Oh gosh–just to let you know, I am one such flaky gal. I lose things ALL THE TIME and forget this and that. I’d APPRECIATE a reminder call, frankly.