(Closed) Awkward situation – any advice? (Long – sorry!)

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Maybe a nonconfrontational discussion over dinner or coffee?  It may be that she’s not entirely clear on when your Fiance is coming home, or is a bit wrapped up in her own stuff and isn’t really aware of your expectations.

The sooner you have this conversation the better, I think, as February is coming up fast and it’s only fair to give her as much lead time as possible to arrange for a lease, storage, movers, etc.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I think sitting her down and telling her exactly what you told us is perfect. You put it really well, and everything that you said is really caring. You can let her know that you loved her being there, and that she’s a wonderful friend, but Fiance is coming back in a few months. Ask if she needs any help finding another place to live or better yet, finding a house! Just let her know gently, and as a friend, I think she will understand!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

from what you wrote, i can’t imagine being upset if i were your friend! it sounds like it was always considered a temporary living arrangement for her until your fiance came home, and now he’s coming home. plus, it’s been rent-free for her. it would be a different story if you and she had been roomates for a long time, before your fi. as long as it’s been clear from the start that this is temporary, and the relationship has been drama-free so far, i would think it would be fine. if i were you, i’d casually mention that you’re happy to help her look for a place when she’s ready, and just stress how important her friendship is to you and how great living together has been.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

She won’t be upset. She will be grateful that you let her live there rent free for so long. I bet if you just explain the whole situation to her, she will gracefully thank you and work on finding new living arrangements. You sound very sweet, I hope everything works out well for you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Good! I was also going to say tell her that you want to throw her a ‘going away’ party or make her a nice dinner to thank her for keeping you company while Fiance was away. That way, she’ll probably get it and it won’t be awkward.

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