(Closed) Awkward Situation

posted 8 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t send tell her anything about it.  It sounds like she wouldn’t be at the wedding, just give them both as gifts to your BMs.

Post # 5
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Aww thanks!  I understand being too nice sometimes.  I always feel like I have to justify my decisions but I’m realizing that you really don’t need to do that sometimes, and it just makes you feel like a doormat.

Post # 7
Member
9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the other posters, just give them as bridesmaids gifts. I’m the same way as you too though, not wanting to hurt people’s feelings. You have only one wedding day so do it the way you want to. Dont let obligation or guilt make the decisons for you. I dont think you have to give an explanation either. If she asks, just be honest and say that they didn’t suit all the necklines of the BMs dresses. I’m sure she’ll understand. Good luck!

Or maybe have the BMs wear them to the rehearsal dinner and make sure to take pics of them wearing them and post on FB 🙂

Post # 8
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would say if she asks about it, tell her that you adore the necklaces but they didn’t look work with the dresses the way you thought they would. Also tell her that the girls loved them and can’t wait to wear them…or soemthing like that. That way, you take the blame on yourself for not picking right (even if that isn’t the case…just to save her feelings)

Post # 9
Member
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think if you’re really concerned about hurting her feelings, you’re better off saying something to her ahead of time rather than waiting to see if she says anything to you after seeing your wedding pictures.  I would just message her and tell her how happy you are with the necklaces, and that they’ll be a great gift for your bridesmaids.  Then tell her unfortunately they didn’t work with the neckline of all the girls’ dresses and you didn’t realize that would be the case until you got the actual necklaces (this is a risk everyone takes when ordering things online because you can’t try them on until you get them).  She probably won’t confront you about it afterwards asking why they didn’t wear her necklaces.  She’ll probably just wonder what happened and assume you didn’t like them.  I think being up front and honest is the best way to avoid hurting feelings.

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