(Closed) Awkward Situations

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What is the best option?
    Ask him his opinions and invite him : (36 votes)
    92 %
    Don't bother inviting him : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I think you should invite him and let him choose whether he’s comfortable attending. You’ll have done “right” by him by inviting him (because he’s a close friend), and it will be up to him to decide what’s best for him.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’d invite him and if he doesn’t want to come, then he can decline the invitation. If he hasn’t expressed an jealousy at all so far, I doubt he’d be super upset about the wedding.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Why don’t you invite him and then the ball is in his court? He can come up with a reason not to come if it will make him that uncomfortable. Just be understanding. Something like, “I would love to have you there but I understand if you can’t make it.” Be gracious, but also don’t assume that he is in a place emotionally where seeing you happy with someone else is going to upset him.

    Edit: I also would not ask him if it will upset him. That might make it sound like you think he’s not over you, which could be weird.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Leave it up to him. Chances are if he’s coll being your friend like you so claim, he won’t bat an eye- it’s not like he doesn’t know there’s a wedding coming up.

    Post # 7
    Member
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just invite him and leave it at that, I dont think you have to ask him if he will be hurt by it, I think that will just make everything awkward.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t think you should ask him if he wants to come but rather just invite him and leave it up to him. You say there are no romantic feelings, so it shouldn’t be an issue. Like a pp said, he obviously knows a wedding is coming so it’s not a surprise.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    I agree with PP’s, if you want him there on your big day, send him an invitation and let him decide after that if he wants to attend.  If things are completely platonic between the two of you, it shouldn’t “upset him”.

    We invited two of my ex’s and one of DH’s to our wedding, and no awkwardness or bad feelings anywhere.  Just old friends having a good time.

    Post # 12
    Member
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Invite him and let him decide.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If everything in platonic, and there are no romantic feelings left between you, then I don’t see why this would even be an issue. It’s just like asking another friend to come. Like everyone else said, I say invite him, and let him decide if he wants to come or not.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I agree with everyone else, invite him but DON’T ask him if it will upset him… that is just weird/uncomfortable.

    Post # 15
    Member
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Don’t ask if it will upset him, that just comes off as incredibly self-centered.  Invite him.

    Post # 16
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Just invite him (don’t talk to him about your concerns).  If he isn’t comfortable attending, he’ll decline.

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