Post # 1
So…I went to a baseball game the other weekend with some coworkers and one of my older coworker’s sister was talking to me. She started asking me questions about my boyfriend and it got kind of awkward:
Her: “So how long have you two been together?”
Me: “Almost a year and a half”
Her: “Ooooh! So what’s your last name?”
Me: “Jones” (I hate my boring last name and I hate my dad’s side of the family that gave it to me. Love my dad though!)
Her: “And what’s HIS last name?”
Me: “Uh….bf’slastname”. hmmmm this is weird.
Her: makes a face expressing disapproval of his name. “Uh huh. And will you be taking his last name?”
Me: jaw drop. confused. what????? “Uh………if we get married.”
Her: “OH! You’re not engaged yet!”
Me: “No…I’m not.” but thanks for rubbing that fact in.
It was just funny and awkward and I didn’t see it coming. Anybody else have strangers bring up awkard topics for you/assume that you’re engaged/married?
Post # 3
That was really strange of her to do that. Just because you’re together for X amount of time doesn’t mean you’re engaged, and a year and half isn’t very long to just be dating (that’s how long my SO and I have been together)! I would just brush it off. She must have boundry issues or something.
Post # 4
That’s totally weird for someone to say that. Before we were engaged people I would barely know would ask me if I knew when we were getting engaged.. so rude.
Post # 5
Haha, I actually posted something similar to this a few weeks ago. We were away for a weekend at a friend’s wedding and when we came home, a different friend of his invited us over for dinner. We were sitting at the kitchen table eating and a friend of the family asks us what we did that weekend. We told them about the wedding, and then she turns to my SO and asks”So, when are you two getting married?”
We both blankly stared at her and nervously chuckled…and I’m pretty sure I could feel my cheeks begin to blush. Kiddingly, I turned to him and said “Yeah, I was actually kinda wondering that myself…” and we all continued to awkwardly chuckle. Others around us groaned and chastised her for putting him on the spot and the woman who asked just said “Well, HE was the one who brought it up!”. I can’t remember exactly what he said, but it was something along the lines of “So, uh, anyway…”
I later pulled him aside, and said that I hope what that lady said didn’t freak him out and that I was just kidding and that I’m not expecting anything. He said he knew that, and it was fine, and not to worry about it.
I really hate when people put people on the spot like that. I tend to not ask questions because it always turns out like this:
Me: “Oh wow, what a pretty ring!”
Girl: “Thanks, my boyfriend gave it to me.”
Me: “Oh, that’s nice. Is he here?”
Girl: “No, he died.”
Me: “Oh…I’m sorry.” (dammit.)
Post # 6
Yup, Ive had this. Ive had complete strange pretty much ring my poor SO through the drier for not being engaged. Its annoying. Not only is is rubbing it my face (thanks, I hadnt NOTICED there was no ring on my finger…) but its rude (She doesnt know what we are dealing with in our lives and what we have going on, maybe there are other things we agreed are more important?). Also, I usually end up having to explain that no, we are not yet engaged because *insert crap here about timing/money/whatever*. It like I have to explain why we havent moved forward in our relationship, like its just okay. Its annoying.
Post # 7
Hahaha glad I’m not the only one. And while I’d like to be engaged sometime in the near future (next year or 2), I don’t think it’s inappropriate at all that we aren’t engaged yet. I mean…we’ve only been dating a year and a half! It just caught me off guard so much. People are weird. And just rude. And it kind of hurt that she so obviously disapproved of his last name in front of me. I know I’m not engaged…but I’d have no problem taking his name if we did decide to take that step…ugh.