Post # 16
I totally walked into Tiffany’s by myself to try on engagement rings. They were nice enough but I could tell they were just being polite. When I went with Fiance, did a complete 180. Offered us coffee and tea (its the UAE so no alcohol), got the manager for us, showed us 10+ rings, basically spent an hour with us. As my bf put it, no man would ever walk into a jewelry store if he wasn’t serious abou buying, so I guess it makes sense he would get better service. Maybe bring a guy friend with you?
Post # 17
I went to the jewellery store by myself. I went the first time with my Fiance, but we were just starting to look seriously at rings. We are in an LDR, so he wasn’t able to be there with my the second time. The sales person was very helpful and accommodating. I just explained that I was trying to get a better idea of what rings I like and that my Fiance would be purchasing it later. They were very helpful there and we ended up purchasing with that company, partly because of the great customer service that we received there.
Post # 18
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
You are treated very differently depending on how you present. If you care about that, present well. There are lots of different goths, bring out your more moneyed goth style.
Explain your situation, you’re looking for a ring, your partner told you to try some on and tell him what you liked (style, size, shape), write the product numberrs down, take the name of the sales person who helps you. That way if you really do find ‘the one’ they can take the credit, and you can point him in the right direction.
It’s a pity, but even in a jewellery store, with your ring size (which is smaller than mine, this isn’t judgement) you are unlikely to be able to try on everything you want to. One thing to think about, find a retailer that changes the proportions of the ring depending on the size they are making, so the proportions are always the same? Also shops happy to genuinely customise.
Saw you mentioned that you’re a bit on the goth side (so am I on occasion) thought you might find this or atleast the shop food for thought, if you’re not going traditional. From their reviews thay seem very flexible (different stones, silver or gold etc) https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/61354620/deep-red-garnet-flower-ring?ref=shop_home_active_23
Post # 19
I used to go into Tiffany’s by myself and try on rings every time I went shopping It’s your secret.
Post # 20
I used to try rings on by myself so I would know where to start once I went with my SO and because I had done it myself first, when we went to pick out a ring it went smoothly and it was enjoyable.
I would just go to the store and if you see a ring you like, ask if you could please try it on, no need to give a reason. the people working there might ask about it for conversation sake, and then you can just explain that you want to get an idea of what you like before bringing your SO.
Honestly if they treat you negatively because of how you dress, take your business elsewhere. I got a rude comment once because I wanted to try on some pricey rings and my reply was to tell them our ring budget. They changed their tune real fast so I told them because they were rude to me we will not be buying from them. I have no patience for that kind of stuff. On the other hand, I have been to places looking not my nicest and have been treated wonderfully!
Post # 21
littlewitch: I prefer shopping online rather than in person. I am not found of the pressure by sales people in the shops at all. It takes all the fun out of it for me 🙁 But that is just my personality. I don’t like the “in-person attention” experience that sales people are trained to give.
I know it can be hard to get an idea for scale when you shop online, but usually there is a hand shot in most online listings for reference and you can always ask questions. We got my ring on etsy and the shopkeeper couldn’t have been nicer. I double checked the shop policies and made sure the ring was returnable if I didn’t like it. I kinda knew I was gonna love it, which was the case and I didn’t hesitate to order it after searching through 100’s of rings!!
Side note-I noticed Etsy has a lot of gothic styled stuff too. You might want to give a look there in your search!