Post # 1
I wasnt really sure where to post this so i just picked emotional..
I dont know if I should be laughing at this or be annoyed.
My Maid/Matron of Honor told one of our mutual friends “Jane” about my wedding, I have so far told most ppl but not everyone yet. and this Jane is not even on the guest list, cos am not that close to her, and hadnt heard from her in over a year , i even tried calling her once and she had changed her number.
So anyway we bumped into each other at a xmas event and just said hi to each other n she said i never called her to say hi, and i xplained that I didnt have her new number. she gave me her new number and i never heard from her since.
Today she texts me to say, she heard I was getting married and why havent i told her about it?
I just text back and kinda laughed it off. Then she text back and said well she better be invited and can she be a maid of honor too, and also she wants to sing at my wedding.?
I havent been able to text back yet cos I really dont know what to say..
Should I be mad at moh for tellin her about it without even checking with me if she was invited?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I wouldn’t be mad at your MoH. Who knew this friend was going to be a stalker??? I’d just text back and say it’s sweet of you to offer singing but you’ve already booked entertainment, and it’s a really small guest (or you’re on a tight budget, so only close friends/family). If she doesn’t get that she’s not a close friend, she has more problems than being a MoH want-to-be. 😉
Post # 6
Are you sure she wasn’t just joking about the Maid/Matron of Honor and singing? Maybe she was just trying to joke around but still hint that she would like to be invited (still rude). I wouldn’t know what to say back either.
Post # 7
I would text back something vague like “We haven’t really discussed our guest list yet, I’m not sure how many people we will be able to invite.” Something that kinda puts it off. If she doesn’t follow up until very near the wedding, then you can say something like “Oh we had to keep it small so we weren’t able to fit you in, sorry.”
Inviting yourself to the wedding of someone you only talk to once a year is pretty rude. And MOH? Singing? I hope she was joking!
Post # 8
Do you care about remaining friends with her? I might go so far as to text her back and say “no, you’re not invited” I hope the Maid/Matron of Honor and singing were a joke, but it was in poor taste regardless.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be mad at your Maid/Matron of Honor, its exciting news to have such an important role in someones wedding. I would be flattered that she was talking about it to others.
I would just be honest and tell her that because you two havn’t been in close contact, you hadn’t thought to put her on the list and that you are sorry.
Post # 11
@bellagio: agree 100%. It puts off her asking again regarding singing etc. If she is persistant on being a Maid/Matron of Honor (seriously?!) then be up front with her and say you aren’t that close and hardly speak and the guest list is small. It sounds like you aren’t close with her anyway so if she gets mad then that’s her issue to deal with.
People come out of nowhere once they hear you are engaged, hoping to get an invite just because they don’t want to be left out. Darling Husband has a friend who just messaged him on facebook asking about our engagement…hubs informed him we’ve been married since October! The guy wrote back totally serious “oh, thanks for the invite, did mine get lost in the mail” Darling Husband wrote back, “I haven’t talked to you in 6 years!” …the guy didn’t reply back. I think some people really do just have a fear of being left out or something.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
@Soon2beeMrsM: LOL. Why are people so socially awkward? I’ve never invited myself to a wedding…
Post # 13
Hahahaha i had a person offer me to dance at our wedding i was like umm no? she wasnt even invited either lol good luck to you!
Post # 14
@Bellagio- Darling Husband told me the guy was a weirdo, um yeah I assumed that. Obviously if the guy doesn’t even know that you got married he isn’t a very good friend, he’s just a fb creeper who wanted to make Darling Husband feel bad for not inviting him.
Post # 15
Gosh, I really have a hard time with the “I better get an invite!” people that you haven’t spoken to in a year+. I mean don’t people understand you can’t invite everyone you’ve ever known in your life?!
I like to think this gal was joking, but you know her personality better than we do.
I agree with Bellagio…
Post # 16
Isn’t it funny how it’s always people you’re not really close who invite themselves. Like one of my now BM’s before she was even a Bridesmaid or Best Man was like, “I understand if you don’t have room to invite people,” since she knew I picked a venue with limited guest and I have a huge fam. Well I’d rather not invite the fam :p