AWKWARD work scenario! Help! What do I do tomorrow?

posted 2 months ago in Career
  • poll: Should I talk to her about it tomorrow?
    Yes, close the door and say you got this phone call. : (37 votes)
    77 %
    No, pretend it didn't happen, she obviously didn't want anyone to know! : (11 votes)
    23 %
    Other (please explain below!!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 16
    6100 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I do think it’s off putting that she didn’t give you a heads up she’s listed you as a reference, but I don’t at all think it’s out of line for her to be looking for another job.

    People’s life goals and circumstances change all the time. Yes the company heavily relies on her, but at the end of the day if she’s unhappy, underpaid, or just ready for a change that’s not a big deal. It does sounds like you’re mainly upset thinking about how her leaving will affect you, which is valid, but again it’s the companies job to find a replacement.

    You gave her the positive review, so at this point it’s in the past. Just let her know you heard from them.

    Post # 18
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    newlybeebride :  Did they say when her start date is? I think its unfair for you to assume she’s leaving you high and dry. As long as she gives a 2 week notice thats really all she owes you.

    You should be upset with the company/CEO not her. This is a culture problem with the company environment. 

    Post # 19
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    Yes, you should mention that you had a request for a reference, which company it was and that you hope she gets the job she wants, but would she mind letting you know in future that she has named you as a reference. Leave it at that, she’s not responsible for anything happening in the comapny or anyone working there. If there are serious problems in your company you may go job hunting yourself and may need her help as a reference so keep it friendly!

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