(Closed) awkwardddd… boss thinks he's invited to my wedding!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just tell my coworkers (none of whom are invited) that it’s a small wedding and leave it at that.  I hope they get the hint.

Post # 5
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’d probably freak out and just invite him. Eek!

Post # 6
380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Diamondgurl:  Can you fit your boss onto the invite list? That just seems awkward to me and not any real way to tell him or her that they aren’t invited. Good luck!

Post # 7
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s a matter of personal preference, but if I was inviting co-workers I would probably invite my boss as a courtesy as well (and in fact did do that when I got married). He probably won’t come. I think that gesture could go a long way, especially if he finds out some of your co-workers were there.

Post # 8
1682 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with the other ladies- I think you should probably invite him.

Post # 9
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would just invite him. I know its hard to keep the list down to what youre comfortabel with but i always went by the “If you invite one you should invite them alll and thats includes your boss especially” rule when it comes to inviting coworkers. I read it in a wedding etiquette book and it stuck.

Post # 10
1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A lot of times bosses don’t really GO to weddings, they just want to get the invite so they can send you a nice gift. It’s pretty common. Everyone invites our boss here and he’s never once attended, but always sends a lovely gift.

Post # 12
378 posts
Helper bee

Yeah I pretty much just bit the bullet and invite all my bosses (and I have many bosses).  Sometimes it is just not worth people getting offended.  They all gave me nice gifts though so it wasn’t so bad.

Post # 13
7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree–he probably just wants to send you a gift.

Post # 15
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I work in a casino, as does my husband, and therefore spent a lot of time with my co-wokers and my manager/supervisors. When we got married, there were around seven close co-workers that we invited to both the wedding and the reception, with an open invitation to the rest to attend the reception if they wished/got off of work in time (we did a buffet style meal, and had plenty of food leftover!)

As far as our manager and supervisors went, I had been friends with one of the supervisors since well before he got that position, but didn’t want to single out the others, so I gave them all invites. They each made an appearance at the reception to congratulate us and that was that.

But I agree with the others, I think you should invite your boss. It would be similar to inviting the annoying neighbor to your high school graduation party, just to keep things happy. Your boss might be more offended if he/she doesn’t get invited than you will be if he/she shows up or not!

Post # 16
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I say invite just the one who’s asking – if he’s the one you report to the most frequently.

FI’s cowoker invited her 3 bosses (too small not to invite all 3 bosses… for a 20-ppl firm!) and she mentioned that they gave her a very nice gift.
I can’t say none of the bosses attended her wedding, that would be a lie. One of them did reply “yes” and show up, with 2 unaccounted-for friends to her destination wedding in the Bahamas! It was so crazy that she just brushed it off. We still think it’s nuts!

We’ll be inviting all three bosses most likely, but expect them to skip out because our wedding hopefully sounds boring compared to a tropical island hahaha

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