Post # 32
This is a sticky situation. I work at a small company (there are 8 of us in total, including my boss and his wife, who technically is also my boss.) so I’m inviting all of them, plus their SOs (12 people). But, my situation sounds a little different from yours; these people are like my work family.
If you’re not comfortable with him being there, and are concerned about who he’ll bring or how he’ll act, I would just not invite him and leave it at that.
Post # 33
You are not obligated to invite people with a guest unless they are living together, engaged or married. Problem solved unless you are also inviting your co workers with casual dates. I would suggest just having a table of people from the office. They will all knowone snother – no need to invite + 1s just for the sake of it.
Post # 34
To clarify, the coworkers that are invited are my close friends. We’ve spend holidays together, that’s how close we are. I think I invited only 4 coworkers (plus their sig others), out of my 100 person firm.
Post # 35
I don’t understand the pressure from others to invite your boss. Especially for the possiblity of better GIFTS. I mean, come on people, a wedding should be spent with those nearest and dearest to your hearts…. not turn it into a gift grabby people fest!!
I think if you are uncomfortable about inviting him, (and clearly you are), then you SHOULD NOT INVITE HIM. You invited your good friends. They just happen to be your coworkers too. There should be no pressure on you to invite anyone else.
If he keeps asking about the registry, you can tell him. He may just want to be polite and get you a gift.
Post # 36
I’m intrigued to see that it is often expected that you invite your boss if you invite some coworkers… from my region of the UK noone would ever expect you to invite your boss! And I certainly wouldn’t invite mine! He’s so difficult!
It is awkward though if someone gets the wrong idea and thinks they are invited… if you decide he’s not invited it would be best to let him know asap, maybe saying you had to review guest numbers due to building capacity?
Post # 37
I’m such a wimp that with a 200 person wedding I’d probably just add two more (let him bring a date) and hope that in such a big crowd he wouldn’t be able to make any trouble. If he knows it’s that big, it’s obviously not “just family/friends.” 200 is a lot and he probably feels close enough to you to be entitled to be among your 200 closest people. Not saying he is, or that the should feel that way, just that he probably does.
I want to say stand your ground, but I don’t think I’d be strong enough to. Personally my wedding is only 50 people so I could say it was too small, etc. but if I was having a huge wedding and could not think of an excuse that sounded polite, I’d probably cave.