Post # 1
We invited 88 people to the wedding, and it looks like almost 1/2 of our guest list are declining. Luckily because we’re having a Friday wedding, we don’t have a minimum number of guests we need, but I’m afraid that such a small turnout will be weird, or awkward. Given that we allotted room for a lot more guests, I’m afraid it will look sparse in the reception room, and people won’t have as much fun together..
That being said, Fiance is completely okay with that turn-out because it’ll just be the people who matter most to us.. but, I want to invite more friends whom we originally had to keep off the guest list to keep our numbers lower. We have no more invites to send, so would it be tacky to just e-mail them, and explain the situation? Or do you think it would be okay?
*sigh*. We should have eloped. Why didn’t he listen?
Post # 3
If you’re going to do a second round of invites I would order more invitations.
Post # 4
You still have time – could you just grab some DIY invites from Michael’s? Use a coupon? It doesn’t matter if they look the same as the originals, but I think if you’re going to invite people, it would be nice to send a real invitation.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t actually tell people that “hey, we had a lot of declines so now you’re invited!” Especially in an email. I’d just buy more invitations and send them.
Post # 6
@brighteyedgirl: I would send an official invitation to these guests. Emailing is in the same boat as setting up a FB event for your wedding…it’s tacky and not proper. Those are for inviting to casual get togethers. This is your wedding, which should be a formal affair.
I hope you get a great turn out!
Post # 7
Thanks, ladies. I thought about getting another set of invites, but wasn’t sure if timing would allow for it. I’ll get on it ASAP, though.
Post # 8
I agree with the other ladies, I would send out another set of invites (even if they are from Michaels or something), and not say that are B-listed.
Post # 9
You can always send electronic invites, in the interest of being more environmentally friendly. An evite might be too far to the extreme but there’s nothing wrong with photoshopping a nice invite layout and emailing it, as long as the recipients are tech-savvy.
Post # 10
@brighteyedgirl: I don’t think they’d even know if they got a different looking invite than the others on the guest list, but they’d definitely know they were B-listed if they got an email. Like the others suggested, you’re probably fine with just getting some DIY invites or something. =o)
Post # 11
Yeah, emailing them would be very rude and show that they were B-listed. Definitely go for the extra invitations or making some DIY ones from Michaels.
Post # 12
@brighteyedgirl: Every hostess should have a standing B-list: the people she can call upon to balance out a formal dinner-table when expected guests have to cancel. That kind of a B-list is completely unexceptional. It is the kind of favour that very good friends do for one another, without taking offense, performed happily in the knowledge that even though they were not on the original guest list they are about to have a first-rate meal and a lovely evening.
The thing is, the kind of people on a hostess’s emergency B-list are her closest and most trusted friends. And when you have a big once-in-a-lifetime party like a wedding party, your closest and most trusted friends are the people who should be at the top of your A-list; and they’re the people who having received that A-list invitation, are not going to be declining.If you do have friends in that closest-and-most-trusted category that you chose originally not to invite, then by all means extend them the introduction. They will understand. But I doubth that you are going to find forty-four of them, or even enough to make a difference in terms of filling your reception room.
In that case, you may simply have to adapt your set-up to define the space into a smaller area of the room. Forty-odd guests is a nice number for a formal party: small enough that you can even arrange all the place-settings at a single grand banquet table if you want — which is more formal than the usual multi-table set-up. If that’s not your thing, your imagination can probably come up with other ways to turn having a smaller guest-list into an opportunity instead of a problem.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You should order more invitations.
Post # 14
The nice thing about invitations is that, for the most part, people only see the one they themselves receive, so it’s totally fine if the second set isn’t identical to the first round. Print up some real invitations and take advantage of the opportunity to include the friends you now have room for!