Post # 1
We have an A list and a B list for our wedding, which I’m fine with, but on my FI’s side of the family we have a number of people that have told us they can’t come, but they want an invitiation so they know where to send the card. My question is- where do we put those people- on the A or B list?
I’d like to put them on the B list because those people shouldn’t care when they get their invites, but I’m afraid we might get too many YES rsvps from the A list to justify sending out more invites.
Would it be a huge faux paux if I send those people invites but don’t send them an rsvp card? Too rude?
Post # 3
I think they want it more for announcement purposes than going to the wedding so I don’t think they would really notice.
Post # 4
If you already know they can’t come, why does it matter when you send it?
Post # 5
@crayfish: I’m afraid that someone might change their mind, and then we’ll have no where to put them at the reception. I thought maybe if we didn’t send them an rsvp card we could take away that option….I feel bad writing that.
Post # 6
We had this backfire with my daughter’s wedding. Had a handful of out of town relatives that said “we can’t attend but please send the invite anyway”. Well, we got 2 rsvp’s back that said “we have changed plans and can come after all” and another rsvp back that said “so excited…I thought the wedding was the weekend BEFORE, we’re free the weekend of the wedding…..this added 6 people to a guest list that was already busting at the seams.
Just to be safe, put them on the B list.