Post # 16
My older 2 daughters are almost exactly 2 years apart, and I won’t lie — the first few months of having a newborn and a 2 year old at home were hard, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. My girls are total BFF’s now, and I love the relationship they have. Of course they fight (they’re 5 and 7), but when it comes down to it, they ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have each others back. I hope their relationship continues that way! I recently had my 3rd daughter this past april, and the spacing between her and my middle who was 4 1/2 at the time, is amazing as well. And my 7 year old is a HUGE help with the baby, keeping her entertained while I’m making dinner or just doing other things around the house.
Post # 17
Nice! Congrats! How many do you want?
2.5 years sounds pretty good. I’d like that for us, I think, but I so do not want a winter due date! The days are so short here in the winter- so much darkness- it bothers me way more than the cold and I get SAD. Plus with my job it just wouldn’t work so I’m trying to avoid that if possible. Best of luck to you TTC!
To the moms with babies close in age, where you still breastfeeding when you got pregnant? Were you able to continue breastfeeding if you wanted to?
Post # 18
That totally sums up how I feel about it- 2 years seems really hard when they’re little but is great spacing for friendship when they’re older! My brother and I are 4 years apart and we had fun playing and stuff but he was just so much younger.
Post # 19
I can see why 2 would be fun but a little more hectic. Ours will probably be closer to 3 years apart (maybe 2.75 years-3 years) and I can definitely see some benefits like 1) only 1 in diapers and 2) 3yo is a little bit better to help out! Plus things like cheaper daycare and college spaced out a tiny bit.
Also after quitting pumping at 12mo I’ve only been pump free for 4mo now and I plan on enjoying that for a little while longer before having to be pregnant and then nursing a newborn again!! So I love that I can go out for drinks and dinner still and baby is fine with a sitter. Also really enjoying getting mostly a full nights sleep while I can. Not sure I’m really ready to give my body up completely again (even though I still nurse 2x a day)
I couldn’t imagine trying when my baby was 12 mo, but I can see it being more appealing around 15-18mo and beyond. Ideally I’d like to try when she was 18mo so about 2.5 years but I really want to take a trip and don’t want to be pregnant for that so I’m trying to hold off until she’s almost 2! I don’t want more than 3 years gap though!
Post # 20
Dear Daughter self weaned at 11 months, and I got pregnant when she was 17 months. It’s nice to have the break between breastfeeding. Don’t get me wrong, I love the breastfeeding relationship, but there is a big sense of freedom (at least for me) once baby weans.
I know that many pregnant women are able to continue breastfeeding, but it wouldn’t be my choice. I feel like having two kids breastfeeding would be overwhelming for me.
Post # 21
My children will be 3 yrs apart once I have my baby in Nov. I wanted 2 yrs apart but it took a year to conceive this one. I think it is great timing though. My first will be potty trained and in his big boy bed before this baby comes and he is pretty indepentant now so I don’t have to have my eyes on him the whole time while he is occupied. Also, he will be able to help me with the baby such as getting diapers and wipes. I think it will help him feel like he is being a big boy by helping. It also depends how many kids you want. This will be my last and I’m 36.
Post # 22
You make a very good point about having a break from breastfeeding/pumping. Some time where my body is just mine and I have that freedom without being pregnant would be nice. I do worry that if it takes longer to conceive or we have any losses they’ll end up being more than 3 years apart, which I don’t really like….maybe we’d start trying a bit before my son turns 2 to give us a little more time just in case…
I can imagine being pregnant and breastfeeding (kind of) but not nursing two kids! I know people do but that seems intense. I’d like to keep nursing my son a while longer but I do want to wean him before he’s two. That’s plenty of boob time in my book!
I am really leaning towards three years. I don’t know how you’d supervise your two year old while nursing a newborn, for example. Hopefully at three years old it’d be a LITTLE bit easier??? If we do end up waiting I’d be 35, almost 36 as well. Congrats to you and best of luck with number 2!
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church
I don’t have kids yet, but I plan on having them ten years apart. That way, the older one can babysit the younger!
I’m kidding. I think.
Post # 24
I’m a twin mom, so my opinion on this may be skewed. I think the closer together the better, that way you don’t have to hold on to baby equipment for years in between, your children can share the same toys, there’s less transition for the older child and they will be more likely to be into the same things. My boys will hold hands through the slats in their cribs, giggle and babble to each other when we put them to bed, it’s adorable. I love that they have a playmate. We also cloth diaper and I can honestly say that having two in diapers is no big deal. The only thing that I think is a bit more challenging with two is tandem nursing, but once you get the hang of it, it’s pretty easy.
Post # 25
I do think that having them close in age encourages friendship- that is so sweet about your boys! Are they identical or fraternal? The thing that would be so different about twins vs. two singletons, though, is the back to back pregnancies! I can’t imagine lifting my son out of his crib with a 8 or 9 month pregnant belly or dealing with stinky cloth diapers while having morning sickness…if my son is still in diapers when I get pregnant again my husband will definitely have to take on alllll of the diaper laundry!
So I just visited a friend and her 8 week old baby boy and holding him definitely gave me baby fever…like, maybe we should just go for it soon. Sigh. On the way home I reminded myself that 13 months IS still a baby, really.
Post # 26
After getting pregnant in July my 2 will be 2.75 years apart. My doctor was all excited that I waited the “perfect” amount of time to ttc (2 yrs) so there’s that. We thought about ttc in September, then January, but we just weren’t ready until July. I’m pretty happy with our age gap. I’ll have time with both of them while I’m on mat leave bc Dear Daughter1 won’t yet be in school, and by the time I’m done mat leave there will only be 5 months until she is in school full time so we will really minimize the amount of time we have 2 children needing full time care. Dear Daughter1 is recently potty trained so we won’t have 2 in diapers. My sister and I are 4.5 years apart and we are very close. So I don’t think a larger age gap has to mean siblings aren’t close. It’s not something you want to jump into before you’re ready, is my sage advice having not even yet had my second 😛