(Closed) Babies 2 years apart or 3 years?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How are your children spaced?
    a year or less (EEEK!) : (2 votes)
    4 %
    around 1.5 years (still eek!) : (7 votes)
    15 %
    2 years : (14 votes)
    30 %
    around 2.5 years : (9 votes)
    19 %
    3 years : (6 votes)
    13 %
    around 3.5 years : (1 votes)
    2 %
    4+ years : (4 votes)
    9 %
    we made plans but life/god/the universe had other ideas : (3 votes)
    6 %
    planning? what's that? we just pop 'em out!! : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    My older 2 daughters are almost exactly 2 years apart, and I won’t lie — the first few months of having a newborn and a 2 year old at home were hard, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. My girls are total BFF’s now, and I love the relationship they have. Of course they fight (they’re 5 and 7), but when it comes down to it, they ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have each others back. I hope their relationship continues that way! I recently had my 3rd daughter this past april, and the spacing between her and my middle who was 4 1/2 at the time, is amazing as well. And my 7 year old is a HUGE help with the baby, keeping her entertained while I’m making dinner or just doing other things around the house.

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    MrsAKSkier:  I can see why 2 would be fun but a little more hectic.  Ours will probably be closer to 3 years apart (maybe 2.75 years-3 years) and I can definitely see some benefits like 1) only 1 in diapers and 2) 3yo is a little bit better to help out!  Plus things like cheaper daycare and college spaced out a tiny bit. 

    Also after quitting pumping at 12mo I’ve only been pump free for 4mo now and I plan on enjoying that for a little while longer before having to be pregnant and then nursing a newborn again!!  So I love that I can go out for drinks and dinner still and baby is fine with a sitter.  Also really enjoying getting mostly a full nights sleep while I can.  Not sure I’m really ready to give my body up completely again (even though I still nurse 2x a day)

    I couldn’t imagine trying when my baby was 12 mo, but I can see it being more appealing around 15-18mo and beyond.  Ideally I’d like to try when she was 18mo so about 2.5 years but I really want to take a trip and don’t want to be pregnant for that so I’m trying to hold off until she’s almost 2! I don’t want more than 3 years gap though!

    Post # 20
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    7430 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

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    MrsAKSkier:  Dear Daughter self weaned at 11 months, and I got pregnant when she was 17 months. It’s nice to have the break between breastfeeding. Don’t get me wrong, I love the breastfeeding relationship, but there is a big sense of freedom (at least for me) once baby weans.

    I know that many pregnant women are able to continue breastfeeding, but it wouldn’t be my choice. I feel like having two kids breastfeeding would be overwhelming for me.

    Post # 21
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My children will be 3 yrs apart once I have my baby in Nov.  I wanted 2 yrs apart but it took a year to conceive this one.  I think it is great timing though.  My first will be potty trained and in his big boy bed before this baby comes and he is pretty indepentant now so I don’t have to have my eyes on him the whole time while he is occupied.  Also, he will be able to help me with the baby such as getting diapers and wipes.  I think it will help him feel like he is being a big boy by helping.   It also depends how many kids you want.  This will be my last and I’m 36. 

    Post # 23
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    1449 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

    I don’t have kids yet, but I plan on having them ten years apart. That way, the older one can babysit the younger!

    I’m kidding. I think.

    Post # 24
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    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m a twin mom, so my opinion on this may be skewed.  I think the closer together the better, that way you don’t have to hold on to baby equipment for years in between, your children can share the same toys, there’s less transition for the older child and they will be more likely to be into the same things.  My boys will hold hands through the slats in their cribs, giggle and babble to each other when we put them to bed, it’s adorable.  I love that they have a playmate.  We also cloth diaper and I can honestly say that having two in diapers is no big deal.  The only thing that I think is a bit more challenging with two is tandem nursing, but once you get the hang of it, it’s pretty easy.

    Post # 26
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    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    After getting pregnant in July my 2 will be 2.75 years apart. My doctor was all excited that I waited the “perfect” amount of time to ttc (2 yrs) so there’s that. We thought about ttc in September, then January, but we just weren’t ready until July. I’m pretty happy with our age gap. I’ll have time with both of them while I’m on mat leave bc Dear Daughter1 won’t yet be in school, and by the time I’m done mat leave there will only be 5 months until she is in school full time so we will really minimize the amount of time we have 2 children needing full time care. Dear Daughter1 is recently potty trained so we won’t have 2 in diapers. My sister and I are 4.5 years apart and we are very close. So I don’t think a larger age gap has to mean siblings aren’t close. It’s not something you want to jump into before you’re ready, is my sage advice having not even yet had my second 😛

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