Post # 47
“My sister is breastfeeding, but our ceremony is at 7 and he goes to bed at 9 – so really it’s one feeding and he can take a bottle.”
I’m in awe of your sister. She has a 7 months old that has a bed time and can go to sleep without nursing while still breast feeding at other times. She’s very lucky or has a secret I wish I knew when my kids were that small. I know those moms that were able to breast feed for years had this all figured out, but me, no way.
My chidren could not be put down without nursing first. Not to mention they didn’t sleep more than 6 hours in a row at that point. And once they got a bottle, nursing was pretty much over.
When you have kids, anytime your sister tells you about babies and breast feeding, listen to her. She apparently knows what she’s doing.
Post # 48
I understand your concerns and choice. I was sort of hoping for a kids free wedding as well, but Fiance wouldn’t hear anything of it. He says weddings are the bringing together of families and that means kids too. Period! So I’ve had to let go of my quiet and peaceful ceremony ideas.
There’s going to be 3 babies under 1yr, 3 under 3yrs, and 3 under 6yrs. So 9 kids isn’t toooo bad >< But I’m still worried that I won’t be able to hear dear Fiance over some screaming babies. One of the youngest will be my BM’s kid, and I’m hoping that the dad can keep her/him (she’s still preggo so we don’t know!) quiet while she’s standing by me! Just gotta hope for the best!
Post # 49
STICK TO YOUR GUNS.. NO KIDS MEANS NO KIDS!! They will find arangments if they wanna be there (0;
Post # 50
@athame1983: You said, “I invite you to reread my comment- I do not doubt that someone may not be able to leave a newborn nursing baby, however it is NOT anyone else’s problem-certainly not the brides.”
Wow. Just wow. You do realize that we are talking about the bride’s sister, her maid of honor, right? I would like to think that a bride would actually care about the feelings of her sister/ Maid/Matron of Honor (and I’m not saying that the OP doesn’t, but it sounds as though you wouldn’t). I would also like to think that the bride would care about the well being of her neice or nephew. Some breastfed babies are unable to drink out of a bottle and as a result, expressed milk cannot be given to the baby in a bottle. How about the bride taking into the considering these two important immediate family members and hiring a nanny for the duration of the ceremony and reception to be with the baby (who will most likely fall asleep around 6:30 or 7:00 pm) in a separate area from everyone else, which would allow her sister, the Maid/Matron of Honor, to drop in and feed her baby when it is time.
Post # 51
@athame1983: “I don’t see why people with babies expect such special treatment. Not everyone wants a screaming crying child at their wedding”
Exactly. OP stay strong, people’s selfishness is never endeing.
Post # 52
Why is it when a parent is invited to an adults only wedding they’re upset with the bride and groom for not making an exception to bring their baby/child? If they were invited to a late night comedy club would they insist on bringing their baby/child? I doubt it. The parents can either hire a babysitter and have a night out or decline. I would never expect the bride to provide babysitting for my child, it’s my responsibility not hers.
I wonder how many brides are pushed into letting guests bring babies to an adult only wedding and regret it when there’s an issue. Do the parents apologize for their baby crying during the ceremony? or their 3 year old pulling on a table cloth full of dishes and burning candles? I was watching an episode of TLC’s Four Weddings earlier and 3 little girls were running around the dance floor screaming and making “floor angels”. One of the guests said with a disgusted look on her face “It’s like kids gone wild”!! I had to laugh out loud and think I wish I could have posted that video to WB.
I think guests should respect bride and grooms wishes and not expect them to make exceptions just for them.
Post # 53
I would rarely hire a sitter to attend a wedding. It’s not worth it. Everyone thinks their wedding is some huge blessing to parents. It’s not. I can create a much better night out than a crowded dance floor and bad food.
I would never complain, I would just decline. No hard feelings. No whining If I were an attendant who wasn’t allowed to have my breast feeding infant nearby I would drop out or leave the wedding immediately following the ceremony.
Brides have every right to choose a kid free wedding and parents have every righ to put their families first. No one needs to get their panties in a bunch.