Post # 1
We have a ton of babies coming to our wedding. What happens if/when one of them starts screaming and crying during the ceremony? Do parents generally step out with a crying baby or do they stay and let them cry??? I have no idea what to expect. Should our wedding planner say something about it beforehand or is that rude? Our ceremony will only be like 15 minutes.
Post # 3
We had a two-month old baby at our ceremony who started crying, and the mother did nothing. If I wasn’t in such a good mood, I probably would have given her the glare of death.
Post # 4
A good parent/friend would take thier crying baby out. But that doesn’t always happen, and I think it would be rude to make an annoucement beforehand. Bad position to be in.
Post # 5
We actually asked that they just not bring their young kids to the ceremony. We have a gap between the ceremony & the reception, so they have plenty of time to retrieve them before the reception.
Post # 6
I think it would be good to make an announcement prior to the ceremony starting. Not all parents will take their crying baby out unfortunately.
Post # 7
I think most people have the courtesy to take a crying baby out of the ceremony. That said – I’ve seen the horror stories from bees of people who didn’t (but I do think those people are in the extreme minority!)
Post # 8
If your ceremony venue has a spare room, you can make it the ‘crying room’ and have a sign near the entrance saying something like ‘For your convenience there is a parent’s room located (give location) should your child become unsettled during the ceremony’. I think that sort of gives the message that crying children should be removed, without being rude and telling people to leave.
Post # 9
Do you have ushers in your ceremony? I do, and I am going to ask my usher to offer seats on the side of the rows and tell the parents sit here so you can bring your babies out if needed or in case they cry. 🙂 This way it’s kinda not pushy but they should ring a bell.
I guess most parents should know that they should bring their babies out though.
Post # 10
Please don’t have your planner make an announcement beforehand. That would be awkward and rude. People have the common sense to remove a crying baby from a wedding. I’m guessing the only reason someone wouldn’t is if they feel like walking out would be MORE of disruption. So ask your ushers to sit families towards the rear of the church and on the end of a row.
Post # 11
Last July, my fiance’s best friend had gotten married and yes, there were kids there..I don’t have a problem with children, it’s just when they start going balls out crying that it gets to me..It really depends on certain people whether you want children at your wedding or not..so anyways, during the ceremony, the groom’s nephew was crying hysterically…i mean yelling and crying really really loudly…and it was during the part they were exchanging vows..the bride was making small looks at the kid’s parents, as well as the groom literally turning around and doing one of those “can you do something about the noise sis” looks..i’m sure that when they were exchanging vows, it was all captured on video…and it’s sad that it wasn’t the way the bride and groom imagined their ceremony to be, especially during the exchanging of vows, because a kid is crying his head off..
now..if you’re like my sister where she just wants all adults and no children, then keep it that way..there’s no problem with making a wedding all adults only..children can ruin the experience if they start crying hysterically like the groom’s nephew had done…i mean if that happens to you, God forbid, it can really put a damper on your ceremony…I hope they all know that when a kid starts crying, the parent/guardian really needs to take them outside the hall/room etc.
Post # 12
i feel like usually one of the parents will take the baby out. we only had one baby at our ceremony, and her mom sat near the end so she’d easily be able to slip out if needed. luckily there were no issues though, apparently all she did was sing along with the music so they were able to stay the whole time.
Post # 13
Will you have ushers for your ceremony? Aside from their more common duties — passing out programs, seating VIPs, etc. — ushers are also the only appropriate people to escort parents with upset children out.
I don’t mean that they act like “baby bouncers” and actually force them to leave, but quietly coming over to the parent and asking if they need assistance or a place to take the child is appropriate and tactful. If the adult refuses (saying, “no thanks, I got this under control”) there’s nothing else to do but hope the child quiets down.
I’ve seen this done twice, and it worked once. The first time, the usher came over and whispered to a mother with an upset baby, “is everything okay? Do you need anything?” and mother simply replied “no”, and eventually the baby calmed down. The second time, a father was dealing with a crying 18-month-old, and the usher asked if he needed help — the father nodded and stood up, so the usher took him and the child to another room.