Post # 1
My qusetion is aimed for mother’s or pregnant women who’s husband’s do not make enough money to allow you to be a stay at home mother.
Did you work right after the baby? Did you work Part Time? Did you put the child in FT Day Care?
How did you manage since our income was NECESSARY for survival?
My husband can’t afford all our bills. I never wanted to have a baby and work Full Time immediatly….. Will I ever be able to have children?
Post # 3
I did my 12 weeks maternity leave and went back to work full time. Little boy is in daycare a in home licensed one.
For when was off maternity leave 6 weeks was paid Short Term Disability and 6 weeks un paid. We made it okay.
Finacially we could make it okay if I didn’t go back to work but I want to work. I don’t want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Atrium at the Curtis Center
We saved a lot of money over the time when I was pregnant, and it’s allowing me to stay home until the baby is 5.5 months old. I would probably stay home longer but our insurance is under my plan, and that’s the longest work will let me go without dropping me. We can absolutely not afford for me to stay home all the time, or him to stay home either, so we saved like mad and are making it work. We will put him in FT daycare when I go back to work.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@RedRose1979: We are planning for my Fiance to be a Stay-At-Home Dad because I make significantly more than he does so I have to go back to work after my FMLA runs out. I already have short term disability which will pay me 75% of my pay while I am out on maternity leave. Otherwise we wouldn’t be able to afford for me to take maternity leave on his salary alone.
Post # 7
I’m taking my 12 weeks unpaid then going back to work full time.
Post # 8
@RedRose1979: we both make plenty of money but I will return to work full time at either 12 or 16 weeks.
Post # 9
I left my full-time job and started working from home part time for the non-profit my mother runs. We are lucky to have the option, even though accomplishing any work with a 9 month-old is nearly impossible.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I went back to work 4 weeks after DS was born. No work = no money. And my ex refused to keep a steady job. So yeah, I did what had to be done.
If we TTC this time, I plan to take 12 weeks off for maternity leave, then work part time for 2 weeks to transition, and then back to work full time. I will work 2 days a week from home, and Mr. LK will work from home 1 day a week. And we will have a nanny at home, so LO will only be alone with the nanny 2 days a week. We could afford for one of us to be a SAHP, but we both enjoy our careers, and have worked far too hard to build them to abandon ship now.
Post # 11
but doesnt day care cost make working FT a wash?
Post # 12
Is your husband willing to pick up a second job? If so that might help ease the burden a little. Check to see what your companies maternity leave policy is and that can give you a starting point of how much time to take off. Most daycares around here do take babies starting at 6 weeks.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@RedRose1979: We did the cost-benefit analysis and both of us being employed brings us out ahead. A nanny will be pricey, but it still makes sense for us for the first year or two. It will help us cut down on stress getting ready for and getting home from work, less sick baby issues because there will be no daycare-acquired illnesses, I will be able to breast feed on the days that I work from home (exclusive nursing at least 4 days a week = less pumping and more cuddling), and we will have more say in the way our LO is cared for/fed/diapered/etc.
Post # 14
@RedRose1979: Sometimes. Depends on how much you make vs. cost of daycare and options for less expensive dayhomes in your area.
Not judging at all, but if I could only be with my baby f/t for a few weeks or months before going back to work, I think that would be deciding factor re: whether or not to have children, and in that case I would probably decide not to.
Post # 15
I currently have a one year old. After I gave birth to her I had 6 weeks off before I had to go back to work. I am however very lucky in that my husband works from home so we alternate. He watches her while I’m at work and I watch her while he’s working. In your situation it’s much harder. There are a lot of very nice daycares that watch infants from 12weeks on up but you need to be careful and pay close attention to reviews of them.
If I had the choice and the ability to, I would love to go to part time so I could spend more time with her and he could focus more on work. Sadly I can’t get that option since it is my work that provides health care but if that’s an option for you it may be a nice one?
Post # 16
@RedRose1979: It depends on where you go. Here a center is vastly expensive while what we pay at a licensed home daycare is half or even 3/4 of what we would have paid at a center.