(Closed) Babies vs. OH GOD NO BABIES PLEASE DON'T LET ME GET PREGNANT!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I waver every day between ‘eh, it wouldn’t be so bad’ and ‘dear God NO BABIES YET!’. We both just turned 24…so we have time, but we’ve also said we’d like to have 4-5 kids and be done in our early thirties….which means we’d be having a lot of babies in a short amount of time. But I think about all those same things – finances, traveling, my body, my diet – Darling Husband and I are just too selfish right now to want kids.

So I’m curious if the baby switch will get turned on in the next couple years, cause we’ve tenatively pegged the 2nd half of 2014 as our TTC start….but that’s the year after next year! It just seems so close.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i am expecting my twin nephews in 4 months and it has kicked my baby fever into high gear!! if Fiance and i were married now, it would be a serious discussion topic so i get what youre saying! our saving grace is that we are a year away from a wedding. 

ETA: that being said, (TMI warning) i get just about no period thanks to the BC pill i take, and when i had my annual last week and she confirmed i was not pregnant i was all “thank you sweet baby jesus!”

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@bostongirl27:  see, we just had our first niece born and my BFF had her first both in January…and we like holding them and getting to see them….but it definitely does not give us baby fever!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I never really thought of having babies until I met my FH.  Now, after many excited conversations, we’re ready!  I’m pushing 28 and my FH is 33, so it would be a good time to start.  But, we don’t get married until next year.  His mom, eventhough she’s a very traditional Greek woman, thinks we don’t need to wait until we’re married.  My mother, on the other hand, would think it would be an absolute sin, and would be terrified about her image of her daughter getting pregnant out of wedlock. lol. 

Anyways, I’m off BC, and if it happens, then we’ll be thrilled.  If not, then we’ll try harder after we get married.

However, if you’re not ready, don’t push it.  30-35 is not too late to have kids.  That seems to be on par nowadays, so if you’re 25, you still have time to get mentally prepared for it.  Don’t feel pressured.  Try to knock one of those things off your “to do” list, and maybe you’ll be more prepared.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@GreenEyedMoon:  squirting out a mini-me – That made me lol!

I’m in the same boat. Surrounded by pregnant women and new moms. I never realized how much I want children until my own friends started having them. FH and I are hoping for a honeymoon baby.  πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hisgoosiegirl:  oh, i am pretty sure one the little dears are born and start screaming and pooping, it will change a lot!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@GreenEyedMoon:  That is understandable…I was in your shoes a few years ago too…I had a lot of expectations about my life with my FH and just for myself too…but as the years passed, baby fever has gotten worse.  Now every time I pass any random baby I do that dumb “peekaboo” crap and make myself look like a fool.  I just can’t help myself.  All I can say, is sometimes it seems like it, but I dont think life ends after a child, it just changes.  But there are rewards to it too.  And disadvantages…like lack of sleep and poop.  But having a little one look up and say “i love you, mom” probably makes it worth it.  πŸ˜‰ 

 Once all the other things you wanted to do seem a little less spectacular than a baby, then you know you’re ready.  Until then, press on with fulfilling your dreams πŸ™‚  Life happens when it wants πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance wants kids, and he has always known he wants kids.  I was more on the fence about it.  I don’t particularly like children (though I work with kids… odd huh?) and I had FINALLY convinced my family that I may or may not ever have kids.  They FINALLY seem to grasp the concept.

Now we’re talking about TTC, and when.  We have lived together for a few years, I already own my own home, and we both have decent stable jobs.  We’ll be getting married in August, and have decided to TTC starting in August of THIS YEAR!

Sometimes I think “Oh, this will be exciting, I’ll be so cute with a baby belly” and other times I feel like it will ruin my body and my social schedule.  I imagine this is kind of a normal swirl of emotions.  If I were to find out tomorrow that I’m pregnant, I’d be a little apprehensive but only because I want to fit into my wedding dress!  It wouldn’t be the end of the world for us, but I’d be really scared.

Oh, and I’m 31.  I didn’t have any sort of biological clock ticking or anything even after 30.  Fiance says the batteries in my biological clock died :/ 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yea I’m kind of with you. I never really wanted kids but in the last year or two sometimes it seems like it’d be a great idea! I can totally see decorating a nursery and picking out names and outfits and squishing its little face. Plus, I’m going to be 28 this year so there is no time like the present.

Sometimes. 

But then other times (most times) I’m like omg nooooooooooooo don’t make me have babies. lol. We’re just so comfortable and happy in our easy little life and the idea of spending that much time and money………. it just feels like…….. why?

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m still at the stage where I look at my friends posting photos of their babies on Facebook and think, “Thank GOD that’s not me…”

I mean, I like kids, I can handle the idea of pregnancy doing weird, icky and painful things to my body…I just can’t see myself as a mom right now.

I’m pushing 30, but TTC definitely won’t be in the cards for a few years yet as we want to own a home before we spawn any little ones, so I still have some breathing room…I’m just hoping that the mommy instinct finally kicks in one of these days. We really do want to have a family at some point, but I’m not about to have kids if everything inside me screams “NOOOOOO!!!!” at the thought of raising one.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@GreenEyedMoon:  When you were 7?!?!?! I had a girl that I knew in elementary school that got her first period at 10 years old, and she thought she was dying because she had no idea what a period was! I can’t imagine starting my cycles at age 7. Sorry to fixate on that, but I’ve never heard such an early age before.

Darling Husband and I are NTNT right now, and I am equal parts excited/terrified. Some days I want a baby more than anything, other times I’ll wake up after sleeping in on a Sunday and think about how much it would to not get to do that whenever I felt like it.

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