(Closed) babiesssss

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsElliott:  I do not have kids yet, planning in the next year – year and a half.  But you have to do what’s right for you both.  If your friends don’t understand or only see the potential negative, so be it.  Don’t let them sway you.

Yes, a baby will change everything.  That baby becomes your world.  So sure, your friends may be right that you won’t have time for them as much anymore.  But this is what happens when you grow up and experience life altering events.  You may lose touch with some friends if they are impatient or unwilling to understand.  Again, so be it.

Now, on the other hand, if your friendships are a priority, get a game plan together.  The first few months will be tough and it’s unlikely that either of you will WANT to go out.  But after you get through that, it’s ok to get a sitter for the night and hang out with your buddies.  Or you and your husband can switch off, every other week/2 weeks/month (whatever works for you both) you can go out with your friends and he stays home with the little one and vice versa.

A baby changes your life, no doubt about that.  But 1 – the joy and love a child brings into your home far exceeds what your friends can provide and 2 – you can still maintain good relationships with your friends as long as you try.

It will be a work in progress!  But you’ll figure out a routine!  Best of luck to you both!


Post # 5
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly I never see my friends with babies. They go to sleep at 9:30pm, never go to happy hours or dinners with friends anymore, etc. My friend and I used to travel together a lot and I was excited that now we’re both married. But it’s hard to travel with a baby and they don’t have a lot of extra money now. I think I’m just having a lot of problems coping with the fact that my friend’s life changed completely and I wasn’t ready for it and I don’t fit in there.

Also, she’s breastfeeding for the first year (and not pumping) so that’s an entire year I’ll never see my friend by herself.

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