(Closed) Baby at a wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If the baby is an infant and still needs mommy to feed then leave it to the parents to make the best choice for their child. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

If the baby is too young they might not want to leave it with a babysitter, so it will come down to either attending with baby or not attending. You could express your concerns about the baby maybe being disturbed by the loud music, but telling them “no baby” will probably equal to them feeling unwelcomed in your wedding. If you are okay with that, then go ahead (nothing wrong there).

However, as someone who had a couple bring their 18 months kid, I will tell you that chances are one of the parents will spent most of his/her time out the venue (so you won’t see much of the baby) and they’d probably leave early (maybe just after dinner). 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

How old is infant?  If baby needs to be with mom for feeding purposes, I’d make the exception.  I also have requested no children but for moms who will be nursing, I put a personal message in the invite to include baby.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

How young is the baby? Would you prefer that your cousin’s wife not attend, if she’s not comfortable leaving her baby for that long?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

If the baby is still breastfeeding, I’d either tell them yes or be prepared for the possibility of a decline. I would, however, leave the judgment of whether or not a wedding is an appropriate place for their child up to them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I personally wouldn’t tell a new mom she couldn’t bring her infant with her. Let them make the decision for their own baby, because it won’t affect you or your wedding at all. If you say no, be prepared that they may not come at all! I wouldn’t leave my newborn for a wedding. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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metbymoonlight :  I can’t stand when people bring babies to a wedding. It’s so annoying. And I love babies. You just can’t control when they will cry. And it’s rude to me to even risk it on someone else’s day. Tell them to find a babysitter. Like the grandparent of the baby or something. Just be like there’s not going to be any other children at the wedding. And explain the cocktail party situation and just ask them if a babysitter is completely out of the question. Then they will get the hint you don’t want the baby there. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

If you want to dissuade them, the best, most kind way to do it is start off by responding with “The only concern I have for little baby is the loud music, venue, etc.” – anything that may cause legitimate concern. I wouldn’t even start out with “I’d love for baby to come, but….” – I would leave that until the end if it feels appropriate. Like, “I’m concerned little baby will be upset by the loud music, drinking, talking, etc. but you know your child best”. I hope our posts help. Good luck!

 

ETA: Just make it about the baby’s comfort level and not about whether it’ll disrupt the wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Unless you actually don’t want the baby there, I’m not sure why it wouldn’t just be the parents’ decision about what they think is best. Babies can handle noises, even that of a wedding reception.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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metbymoonlight :  I only have fur babies so take this with a grain of salt, but I invited all babies up to 12 months.  Depending on the individual baby, they may not be breastfeeding anymore, but that was our cut-off.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I had a 2 month old at our wedding and all was fine! 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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metbymoonlight :  I’m a big advocate of allowing newborns to attend, but 7 to 8 months is borderline. Many kids are crawling by that age, which is something the parents may not be thinking of at the moment. They’re usually not exclusively breast fed either, so getting a babysitter is easier. I’d say something along the lines of, “It’s not a child friendly venue so if you can get him/her babysat that’d be much better“.

If the music’s too loud for a 7 month old, it’s probably too loud for a lot of your older guests too. I’ve had a newborn at a dance reception (which wasn’t insanely loud) without a problem.

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