Post # 1
My husband’s friend’s mother passed away and we are driving the 4 hours back to his home town to attend the visitation and funeral. We have a three month old and I’m not sure if I should just stay at the house with her, or bring her along and take her out if she becomes noisy. The last funeral I attended did have children present, but they were direct relatives of the deceased. Are babies at funerals just as undesirable as babies at weddings?
Post # 2
I would just sit somewhere in the back at the end of a pew so that you could easily walk out of the church if baby gets fussy. Its not a faux pas to bring a baby to a funeral.
Post # 3
I would take the baby. The family should appreciate the effort you are making to honor the deceased.
Post # 4
In my experience babies are a welcome distraction from the grief for people at a funeral. If she gets fussy to where people cannot hear during the service, just excuse yourself.
Post # 5
I would take the baby but make sure the exit is easily accessible and leave the moment the baby gets fussy.
Post # 6
I would take the baby and sit towards the back so if she starts crying you can easily step out. A friend of mine went to a funeral once with her 6 month old and right in the middle of the eulogy she started screaming/crying. My friend just sat there and basically no one could hear anything over her baby. Someone finally turned to her and said “will you take that baby outside?” She thought it was very rude of the person, but I was actually in agreement with her.
Post # 7
There’s nothing wrong with taking a baby. Just, as PPs have said, make sure you sit in the back and you know where the exit is. Otherwise I have never heard of someone having a problem with a baby being at a funeral.
Post # 8
I have no problem with children at a funeral. My uncle passed away over the weekend and the funeral was monday. My SIL sat in the lobby with my nephews who are 6, 4 and 2. On the other side he had a niece with 4 children, one of them was probably between 1 and 2. Not only did he cry the whole time and the father, who was holding him, not get up and leave; but he was crying for his mom, who was sitting right there and refused to take him. Very distracting.
Post # 9
Take the baby it shouldn’t be a problem. If the baby gets fussy just take the baby to the lobby. My sis law did this when my DH grandma passed away a few years ago and her child was about 10 months old.
Post # 10
I say bring the babes! My great-grandmother passed away recently and my husband and I brought both our 1 and two year olds. They behaved perfectly and if they didn’t we would have stepped out with them.
Plus, at a funeral it’s nice to see the start of a fresh life when so much focus is on the end of one.
Post # 11
Like others have suggested, take the baby but sit near the back at the end of a pew so you can discreetly leave if you need to.
Post # 12
Babies are not a faux pas at funerals, as funerals are generally open to the community and are not “hosted” events