Post # 17
@MissFireFlower: “Why not have a table with The Bride, Groom, best man & moh? Becasue you are leaving out all other bridesmaids besides the Maid/Matron of Honor, i don’t think anyone can get angry.“
@TwoCityBride: “WTF she is being ridiculous. Don’t make any concessions for her. There no reason why a 9 month old baby should be at the head table. Either she sits with him somewhere else, or he sits with his Dad or grandparents or other family member.“
Post # 18
Another thought. I assume by “fiance’s SIL” you mean fiance’s brother’s wife. Perhaps a better way to deal with it is for fiance to have a brother-to-brother talk about it, simply because they’re closer than you and SIL. “Listen bro, I just think the baby will be too much of a distraction. I’m sure baby will be fine sitting with our parents”.
Post # 19
@fishbone: “ It’s a baby; it’s not a wild hyaena or swarm of bees” lol
Post # 20
Just remember that “ambience” is over-hyped when it comes to dinner on your wedding day. You won’t have a romantic dinner with your new husband, nor a fun meal with your friends. You’ll have constant interruptions, from vendors with last-minute questions to guests who want to say a few words to the nonstop glass-clinking kiss-demands. If you’re trying to preserve the “ambience” then a DOC is an absolute must, but you’ll still have the glass-clinking and lots of other interruptions.
Pick your battles, and all. Considering you’re going to be very luckily if you can take four bites without an interruption, this might not be worth the potential for drama it brings.
Post # 21
I don’t think she’s worried about having them taken while she’s eating. Photographers do take pictures once the bridal party sits down and during toasts so there is a decent chance the baby will be in one. Plus I’m sorry but babies can be loud and annoying.
Post # 22
@redshoesbride: I would suggest a table with just you your Darling Husband and the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, would be the most simple way to end this withouthaving to hurt any feelings just tell her you had a change of plans with the wedding party table and sit the rest of the wedding party at a seperate table 🙂 but good luck
Post # 23
Are you sure you dont want a sweetheart table? I really have a deep hatred for head tables. You could avoid this whole issue, plus head tables are uncomfortable. People cant sit with their spouses/dates. You can only talk to people on either side of you. Im dreading going to a wedding this summer that my Fiance is in because I know they will do a head table and I cant sit with him for the night…ick! Just something to think about.
Post # 24
I DO think it ruins the look of the head table even if there are no pictures.
It;s your day and you should have it be how you want
The baby can hang out with grandparents or a babysitter, a wedding really is no place for babies.
For the record, I LOVE babies but really find no place for them at weddings. Also, Im just salty bc my uncle is bringing hers despite my asking that he not.: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-dont-care-if-my-baby-is-invited-im-bringing-her