(Closed) Baby at Wedding…UGH! [VENTING]

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Worker bee

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How old exactly is this baby? You said under 2 years, but are we talking 18 months? 12 months? 22 months? Really, unless it’s an infant who is still exclusively breastfeeding, or just still very young, there’s no reason the cousin can’t leave baby with a sitter for a few hours. Honestly, I would tell cousin that you are very sorry, but your wedding is adults only. If she throws a fit and says she won’t come without baby, well, that’s one less person you have to feed. 

I have an 18 month old and we are going to my cousin’s wedding in two weeks. Dear Daughter was invited and I still don’t want to bring her. Weddings aren’t a good place for kids that young, but all of our babysitters will be at the wedding so we don’t have a choice. 

ETA: if you feel that strongly about babies and kids, please reconsider having your own.  you seem to have a very strong hatered for kids. 

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Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m pretty good at not being judgmental so I’m not going to address your anti-children stance. Not everyone likes kids or want to be around them, I get it. So, if you specified on your invitations that no children are allowed at your wedding, you need to reiterate that to your cousin. If her child is a toddler, it shouldn’t be as much of an inconvenience for her to make arrangements compared to if she had a newborn. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Pretty sure you just offended half of the world. You really didn’t have to go on to describe babies as ugly and creatures. You could have just said someone wants to bring their baby to my no children allowed wedding, how can I say no.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Tell her no babies.  Period. 

 

agree if you don’t want babies thereby shouldn’t have them there. 

 

Also Cosign on the utter disdain for babies and kids.  I find they are icky. . And usually I wind up saying it much to everyone’s utter shock.  And no. I doesn’t to hold them.

 

Speaking of. Why if you don’t like babies do people with babies try to force them in to your arms.  Oh here hold it! 

 

No.  No thank you. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Why would anyone assume she wants them of she clearly doesn’t like them? . 

 

hate when people tell me that.  Like geeeee no kidding. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Wowee… just wow. 

As for the wedding – Ring your cousin and tell her if she cant come without her baby then she cant come at all. there is no harm in insisting on a child free wedding. 

BUT while you’re at it just tell her all these thoughts you have so everyone can know your true colours and keep their poor kids away from you. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Serious question: why do you want to one day have kids? You seem to despise them. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

JoRocka:  I don’t know – people just think everyone wants to hold their babies. I don’t like holding babies and never have but sometimes you have to pick your battles and pretend. It is the better policy in the long run. I don’t hate kids though.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

nycsa:  indeed 

 

I find it weird.  I tend to just say no thanks and walk away! . Battle picked and won.

 

My boss just had a baby in November. While I’m happy for her…  Honestly it’s fucking awful.  She’s obsessed.  Problem is she’s the manager of a multimillion dollar program.  She’s trying to be both and on our end it means she’s not particularly effective. . I can’t genuinely speak for the other end but jebebeish.  It’s rough.  I’m glad people like to have babies.  I think it’s important.  But I want nada to do with it!  

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Okay, we get it, you don’t like kids! LOL. 

But why do you think you can’t do anything about her bringing her baby? Is it still exclusively breastfeeding?

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Don’t stress, you’re venting and that’s fine. It’s also fine to not like children.

If you don’t want babies at your wedding then tell your cousin what’s up. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask a mother of an almost 2 year old to leave their child with a trusted friend or relative for a few hours. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Honestly, I would DO something about it. I know you said your post wasn’t about that and it was just for venting, but it really annoys me when someone decides they just don’t care what parameters were set for a wedding. I’m likely in the minority, but if someone has a rule or idea I don’t like, then I don’t go. I don’t say “screw that, I’m gonna go and do what I want anyway.”

With any luck your grandparents will absorb all the baby time.

Edit: It’s perfectly fine to not like kids. My best friend actively hates babies/kids. They just aren’t his thing and he doesn’t want to be within earshot of them at any time. You are not at all alone.

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