(Closed) Baby at wedding what do I do?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Well I’m a biased because I’m definitelly a kid person, but it wouldn’t bother me – especially at that age. As long as they are healthy (not with a cold, colicy, reflux etc), young babies are usually pretty chill and are happy as long as a bottle is at hand.

Have a talk with you Fiance again. A 3 month old is way less likely to cause a scene than a 13 month old. Perhaps if you make sure there is a place the mum can take baby if they do get unsettled, at least you have a plan B?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Just come out with it, there is no good way of saying it. If I had.made a rule, I would stick with it 100%

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My son at 3 months just slept. You barely even noticed he was in the room. Keep in mind if you dont make an exception your friend may decline the invite. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think since you have already said it was fine to bring the baby that it would be extremely rude to now to tell her no. You gave her the option so the only person your Fiance should be upset with is himself for allowing children when he didn’t want them. 

I also think it unfair/rude if you invite some children and not others. You need to either have a no kids wedding or not.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

We’ll have 4 babies under 6 months at our wedding and I’m not worried about them at all! The more the merrier in our book, but then about a quarter of our guest list is made up of friends kids! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

We had a 3 month old at our wedding. I was a bit worried before hand, but did not notice her AT ALL on the day (well, apart from me having a little with her!). The parents danced while baby slept in her pram. It probably totally depends on the baby, but if she’s been crying a lot or sick surely they wouldn’t bring her?

In the end, you told her it’s okay to bring the baby. I don’t think it’s okay to go back on your word. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Sorry, didn’t realise you’d updated 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

springbee2015:  I understand where you are coming from you said no kids. It really does suck that she is putting you in this spot. It’s one of those things where you have to pick your battles. 3 month old babies normally sleep. They cry when they are hungry or their diapers need changed. I wouldn’t be to worried about it. The 3 month old won’t take over the dance floor. The only thing i would really be worried about it having a 3 month at the reception.  Not on your end but on the parents end. How loud is the music going to be? Is it really a good idea to have the baby around loud music? I am sure it’s not going to be like a club or anything So the music may not be an issue. My venue doesn’t charge for infants either so it may not be counted against you. Check with your venue.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The baby won’t be running around like a child could. The crying could be a problem. Baby cried through my friend’s ceremony, drowning out their vows on the video.

Some babies will just sleep; some cry a lot. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

 

Carolsays:  We had around 5 babies at our wedding last month who were at or under the 6 months mark. I didn’t hear a single squeak from any of them, so either they were quiet during the service, or then their parents took fussy babies and small kids to a different space for the service.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If the venue doesn’t charge for kids, them I don’t see why every guest’s kids would not be welcome. Hire a couple of babysitters to lead some activities in the conference room, order in a pizza to feed the kids, everyone is happy, parents can just step down the hall to check on their kids and the kids are properly entertained so they won’t get up to bad behavior.,plus you are no longer the jerk who doesn’t like children (because that is how a parent could see you when you exclude their child fro, the invite).

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