Post # 1
My fiance and I are TTC and *not* superstitious. I would like to start a baby box, but only the essentials. Things you can never have enough of, gender doesn’t affect, and things that are just good in general to have. Diapers and wipes are something I would like to start, but not sure how many of each size is a good estimate. I will have a baby shower, but I don’t have a large family. So I’d like to worry about these small things myself! Plus, it just makes me happy. I’m sure I’ll get an eye roll or two, or a “newb” but all I’m asking is for some general good items you felt were totally nessessary that are ok to start stocking up on little by little!
Post # 2
I had to try out many brands of diapers and wipes before finding my favorite, and now I won’t use anything but that brand, so I wouldn’t buy a bunch of anything until you know what kind you like.
If you plan on getting a diaper pail you could stock up on the bags, and you could get yourself a supply of prenatals, but I can’t really think of anything else I’d recommend buying in advance. You won’t save money buying something you might end up not liking. Hope that helps!
Post # 3
It takes 5 min to go buy diapers and wipes. Do you really want to store them until you have a baby? It can be in nine months or it can be in two years. Especially, if you have problems getting pregnant quickly, wouldn’t you mind seeing all the baby stuff as a reminder?
That said, if you really want to get something, maybe get some small toys, books, couple of pacifiers, a print you want to frame and put in the nursery, maybe an outfit or two (but again, this is hard because you don’t know when the baby will be born and what season it will be). Diapers aren’t a great idea because you won’t know which brand you like until you have a baby (like I hate Pampers with a passion) and there are also diapers that are meant for girls or for boys (the difference isn’t just in colour, the ‘padding’ is different). I wouldn’t get wipes either, there are differences in them as well and who knows if they’d still be as moist in a year or two.
My suggestion is to just research for now because I can’t imagine how painful it would be to have baby stuff if you end up struggling to get pregnant or have a loss. But, if you do really want to get something, I would get more sentimental things, instead of ‘practical’ things like diapers etc.
Post # 4
I agree with the PPs, don’t buy diapers or wipes in advance. Clothes are also difficult, since you don’t know the season when the baby is born or the baby’s body type. My Dear Daughter was rather small and skinny baby, so some clothes that I had bought beforehand were way too wide for her and ended up unused. Of course you buy clothes for the baby before giving birth, but if I will ever have another baby, I would get way less clothes beforehand.
Books and baby toys are pretty safe to buy in advance. You can also get some that are suited to toddlers. Maybe buy few spoons and a plastic plate for the time when you start on solid food.
Also remember, just because you have small families, doesn’t mean you won’t get lots of baby stuff. DH and I both have small families, but we have gotten so much things from our friends and the friends of our parents. When people are done with having kids, they are usually pretty eager to get rid of the baby stuff.
Now is good time to do research on the big items, like strollers, cribs and car seats, so you will know what to look for/which one to buy when the time comes.
Post # 5
I would also wait. If your having a baby shower when the time comes, you’ll probably get everything you need. 🙂
Post # 6
Try stocking up on gift cards instead. If you are a prime member, Amazon gift cards are a good one.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t stock up on diapers and wipes. Some babies are sensitive to certain brands, or the fit isn’t right etc. It would just be a hassle IMO to have to try and return things that were probably bought over a year ago.
I know it’s exciting to start TTC but I personally would wait.
Post # 8
You could get small packs of a few different brands of diapers. I liked pampers swaddlers the best and used them until DS started walking. I think we used about 4 small packs of newborn diapers then moved up to size 1. Some babies are bigger and skip newborn size though.
The other thing you can stock up on is books. They are expensive and you can never really have enough. I buy books on sale whenever I see them even if they won’t be appropriate for a year or two. I asked for only books at my baby shower and still feel like the bookshelf is empty!
Since you’re starting so early you can look for sales or gently used secondhand toys. They’re not worth buying new at full price.
A good baby item that you may want to get yourself is the Aden &Anais bamboo swaddling blanket. They are huge, so soft and lightweight, even if your baby doesn’t like swaddling you will use them lots. They’re expensive compared to other brands but worth it.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t get anything that could potentially expire or dry out (like shampoos, wipes, diaper creams, formula) until you are actually pregnant. I hope you get a BFP quickly, but you just never know and if you end up needing medical help to get pregnant you’ll kick yourself for wasting money on things you don’t need yet.
Books and toys are safe bets if you really can’t help yourself.
Post # 10
If you are considering cloth diapers, maybe keep an eye out for cute, original prints and get one from a few different brands. You’ll almost certainly identify some that you really like and want more of, but you would need to try them first and renting cloth diapers might not get you that option.
Maybe cute burp cloths and books? Those things that will be staples. This would allow you to pick cuter items on clearance, rather than buying just the normal stuff. Maybe keep an eye out for diaper bags that you like and wait for one to go on sale?
I honestly would be comfortable buying things regardless of whether it took 1 month or 5 years to get pregnant. If I wanted to be a parent, I’d become one via one way or another and use them. And, if you end up not wanting to look at the stuff, you’re sure to meet another new mommy who could put them to good use if you wanted to gift them or donate them.
Post # 11
Do not stock up on too many clothes. People will give you lots of clothes. Most of it cute stuff. So if it were me, I’d buy the following:
Zippered footie Pjs (2-3) in all sizes-do not buy the kind with snaps. Snaps at 3am are just evil
Long sleeved Kimono shirts (2-3) in newborn and 0-3
Pants (2-3) in newborn and 0-3, and other sizes
Short sleeved, white onsies- all sizes
SwaddleMe swaddles-only a few since you don’t know if your baby will like a swaddle
Sleep sacks in larger sizes. If your baby likes swaddles, you won’t need a sleep sack until later
Bibs- Get the kind that velcro to the side
For you, buy a Snoogle and Boppy wedge. Seriously, your pregnant self thanks you!
Also, you can buy all of these from consignment stores or sales. Several times a year there are HUGE consignment sales. Ask around. Also join some FB virtual yard sales for you area. And your neighborhood FB page. I just bough over 50 children’s books for $14.
Post # 12
I would stock up on are onesies. The ones that do up in the front with snaps. Putting clothes over a newborns head is a pain in the butt. I would want sizes 0-6 months.
Sleepers. With zippers. Trying to snap up 25 snaps when a baby is screaminf is stressful.
Cloth diapers, I have found Bum Genious AIO organics to be the best.
Maybe a pack or swaddlers size 1. Don’t buy newborn diapers until you know your baby is small enough to wear them. I use disposables for going out and when I know a poop is coming. When baby can move around, I find Huggies better than pampers. And costco wipes are the best imo.
Lots of recieving blankets. I use 3 or 4 a day with a newborn.
I like baby wearers as well. I have a baby hawk, a sling, a cuddly wrap and an ergo and we have used them all.
gift cards are a good idea because it will be money put aside when you need strollers and car seats and exersausers etc
Post # 13
I wouldn’t stock up on diapers, wipes, or clothes. You don’t know what you are going to like and clothes are dependent on the season your baby is born. I like books or gift cards, that’s really the only universal thing. Instead I think I would just do research so you know what you want to buy and what brands. Then you can get it when you’re pregnant or if you see a great deal you can pick something up (such as a baby swing or stroller).
If you do stock up on diapers, don’t buy too many newborn ones. Babies stay in the 3, 4, 5 sizes the longest. Pampers would be my pick if you have to choose one but you never know what you’ll like.
Post # 14
I love this idea and loved reading people’s ideas!
I am such a planner..I started buying stuff for when I was going to move out years before I did, and picked up wedding related items before I was planning a wedding (although I knew it would be coming!..I swear it wasn’t as weird as it sounds… so it seemed only natural that I would do the same once that baby fever hit me! I didn’t get into diapers or anything like that but if I saw a cute blanket, outfit or a sweet deal on a monitor set at a store closing sale I totally bought that shit up..unfortunately it’s a taking us a long time to get pregnant (1.5 years so far) and it can get depressing looking at cute stuff that isn’t bring used! That is the only thing I’d warn you of..but then again you could be one of the lucky ones that it happens for very quickly!
Post # 15
I personally wouldn’t have bought anything before I got pregnant. But I’m 2 weeks post partum and these are the things I’ve found essential (that are not big ticket items)
Blankets/Recieving blankets: I also have an addiction to buying fuzzy blankets but I use them for everything. I take one with us wherever we go, plus babbins likes napping in them (I roll the edges around her to make a peanut shape that she’s nestled in.) I prefer the thicker, fuzzier blankets but the thinner ones are great for puttering around the house or if you need one as a sun shade for the car seat.
Diaper pail: I have one that doesn’t require special bags. Mine takes 14 gallon trash bags. I stocked up on bags through amazon, but we’re not planning on using disposables long.
Cloth diapers: We don’t have these yet but I’m buying FuzziBunz through Costco.
Swaddlers: I got one swaddler when my bestie passed her son’s clothes down to me. Babbins loved it. I ordered two more off of amazon. I’d stop at 2 or 3 max until you know if your baby likes being swaddled. I also have muslin swaddling cloths but it’s so much easier to get the velcro straight jacket type so you’re not fussing in the middle of the night.
Footed sleepies: Everyone swore to me that I needed the zippered kind. “It’ll be so much easier at 3 am!” they cried. “Snaps are just a huge pain in the ass!” they said. I bought primarily zippered footies but I prefer the snap kind because my daughter likes to curl her legs up and it makes zipping up the zippered footies an enormous pain in the ass. Also, with the snap sleepies, I only unsnap the ones around her legs/bottom and pull them to the side for mid-night changes. So, realistically, I’m only re-doing like 4-5 snaps. No big deal. I do like my zippered sleepies, but I prefer the snappy ones.
Diapers: I guess you can stock up on these but I’d avoid buying more than a package or two of newborns. My dad bought us an enormous costco pack (since we don’t have costco out here) that goes pretty much from birth to 14 pounds, so I’d avoid buying too much of the teeny tiny ones.
White noise machine: Your mileage may vary but we just discovered that white noise is the key to getting our brat to sleep. You can buy a cheap one off of Amazon.