(Closed) “Baby” Brides

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What bothers me about the whole “baby bride” comment is that WE CAN’T WIN.  If you’re under 25, oh we’re “too young!” to get married and have a serious commitment.  But if you’re older than that, everyone is all “Why aren’t you married yet?!”

UGH.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Well…umm. Hello to my fellow baby brides, then?

 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well. I guess I am a super baby bride then? I think age is just a number. Some people are ready to get married at.. well 17 and some not until they are in their thirties or later. Age is just a number. I find it kind of offensive to call an adult a “baby” bride.

In my case I have always wanted to marry young, have children young and live my whole life with one man. I was lucky to find him. And I will admit that I am a very young bride. But those of you who are in your early twenties… hmm. Maybe that just rubbed me the wrong way. Not really for my sake, but for yours.

And to think at one point you were odd if you weren’t married before you were 14.. times really have changed.

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

well… i guess im a uber baby then Im 22 but i was moved out with 2 jobs and in college by 17 and lost my parents young-some ppl just are ready sooner than others-the whole point of dating is yes have fun but to find qualities you would want for a spouse and i dated enough to know what i wanted found him and snagged him! we got engaged after 8 months  when we get married we will have been engaged a year and a half i know that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen but its not-both of our familys are cool there isnt a single person who thinks were too young. he’s 24 TODAY and Ill be 23 in February i think every bride knows deep down if they’re ready or not it just is a matter of if they’ll go through with it or not

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, I think that it’s very annoying, but unfortunately it’s not an uncommon feeling amongst a lot of people. When I was interning and I told my supervisor how old my fiance and I area, she replied with “Oh, you’re both babies!” I’m 23 and my fiance is 25. She is 28. Seriously, does she really think that 5 years on me makes me a “baby”?

I think that more and more people are waiting to get married, which is fine, but I feel like once you’ve found someone you care about, isn’t that the time to stop looking? I don’t need to keep looking until I’m 30, I’ve found the one I want to be with now. 

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh this burns my buttons. My FH and I are twenty-one but are both college grads and hold full time jobs. I am also going to grad school. I get told this a lot especially by doctors at the hospital I work at. Many of the women I work with that are around my age are either engaged or married. That is the norm up here.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s just silly.  How can a baby bride be any bride 25 or under when the MEDIAN age of a bride at a first marriage is 26.0?  So by definition HALF of all brides are baby brides?  That’s not only silly, it’s demeaning.  I’d hate to think of what this author would call brides that are OVER 26.

I was married the first time at 22. Both my husband and I had graduated from college a year earlier and we’d been dating five years.  He was in grad school and I had a good job. How were we babies?  Yes, our marriage didn’t work out, but it had NOTHING to do with getting married at 22.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

honestly does it really make sense to call our generation of 20 something brides babies… when our parents generation was getting married at 18 and the generation before them even younger?? Sorry thats annoying… plus Im not a baby, I have a house and a career..

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I suppose the term ‘baby bride’ is offensive, I do however consider anyone getting married between 18-23 to be a young bride. When I heard Hilary Duff was getting married, I definitely raised an eyebrow, she is only 22. I also don’t think going to college is any sort of mark of increased maturity vs one peers who may not have done the same.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Lol, I’m going to be the oldest one in my family to get married. At age 23. 😛

Actually, I always thought I would be in my thirties, but when it’s right, it’s right! Plus, Fiance said he wouldn’t wait til I turned 30 Wink.

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@plantains: Sorry. I didn’t mean to say it did. I just think for me it was a mark of maturity.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LostinND:

No worries, I understand what you were trying to say.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Meh…since 40 is the new 20, doesn’t that make most of us “babies”???

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had someone call me a Child Bride and I got married at 28. Le sigh..

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