(Closed) Baby Dolls and Boys?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you buy your boy a baby doll?
    No way : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Yes all children should have the right to explore and play with what interest them : (54 votes)
    90 %
    Other explain : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I bought our son a doll when his sister was born. He was 4 at the time. He loved it. He was able to feed his “baby” a bottle when I was nursing. I must say that his Dad wasn’t too thrilled at the idea. My son’s interest didn’t last all that long, but I think it did help him to deal with the sudden loss of attention from me.

    Post # 4
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think if it’s something they have expressed interest in, sure. I mean, I think it could be totally awkward if they don’t want anything like that, but in your case it sounds like he may like it/benefit from it. When I first read the post I was wondering if you guys were TTC. 🙂 Dolls don’t have to be “girly” or “for girls.” I remember getting Legos for Christmas one year because I asked for them. 🙂 Now apparently they make them in pastels, but not back in the day.

    Post # 6
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    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    My mom actually bought my (older) brother a doll before I was born because he was starting to play very rough and was becoming aggressive (I also have another older brother).  She bought it to teach him how to be gentle and spent time teaching him what to do with it and he loved it.  She’s a smart lady.

    I would no more take a doll away from my son than a truck away from my daughter.  Children are solicalized with gender-specific toys/colours/etc, but they are also born with personalities and temperments.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @AmeliaBedelia: Agree! If it was something that he expressed an interest in then I would definitley buy him a doll. Toys are toys (:

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Definitely if that is what he wanted.  When my little brother was a toddler, my sister and I would dress him in dresses, frilly socks, and patent leather shoes. HE LOVED IT! I think it was mostly because of the attention, but he’d ask us to paint his nails in sparkly colors and do all sorts of things. He grew up to be the most masculine jock-type I know. He is seriously one giant muscle, and his voice is a serious double-bass.  I on the other hand was a total tom-boy, swore I’d never wear makeup, and hoped I never developed boobs because I wanted to be a boy. And now I’m super feminine, always wear makeup, and have pretty big boobs lol.  My sister started as a girly-girl and grew up to be gender non-conforming.  

    Lesson: just let little kids be happy, the kind of toys they favor growing up has little affect on who they are as adults.

    Post # 9
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    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I know a few little boys that play with dolls. They also play with trucks and robots. No big deal. I don’t see how a boy pretending to be like a daddy is any different than a little girl pretending to be a mommy. Don’t grown men take care of babies? Feed them, change them and rock them to sleep? Why would we be teaching young boys that’s a woman’s job? It’s not! Kids like to pretend to be like us. I don’t see the problem. 

    Post # 10
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If he picked one out and wanted it, yes. I don’t think I would just go out a buy him one though.

    Post # 11
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    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My cousin just had a new baby so we went out and bought him a doll. My aunt suggested it because all the doctors she works with are advocating it now as a teaching tool. He loves his baby and it keeps him from trying to pick up the real baby. (He’s only 18 months old.)

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t see what the big deal is. I think not giving boys baby dolls lends legitimacy to the myth that only women take care of kids, and boys have to do more manly things.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nothing wrong with encouraging boys to play with toys that not only interest them, but will nurture the development of his compassionate and empathetic sides.  Both skills which are crucial to any child’s growth (Emotional Quotient EQ).

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i think it is great that you did that at a mother, and i don’t think your boy liking dolls and babies really says anything about who he is or what he will be like when he is older.

    i think it’s kind of sad the way our society genderizes children so much and places things into such strict boxes. i used to work at a daycare where one of the little boys loved playing house with the girls… i didn’t think anything of it, but some of the employees thought it was awful!

    children are children, and they love to play. some men are born with a compassionate bone and are really good at caring for others–i would be happy that my son was born with that bone!

    Post # 15
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    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    Nope.

    Post # 16
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    827 posts
    Busy bee

    If I had a son, I’d have no problem with him playing with baby dolls.

    People who say you wouldn’t do it:  Why?  Whats wrong with it?  

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